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Title A name given to the resource Santa Clara Public Memory Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Erika Rasmussen Moving Image A series of visual representations imparting an impression of motion when shown in succession. Examples include animations, movies, television programs, videos, zoetropes, or visual output from a simulation. Imported Thumbnail If a thumbnail images was imported for an embedded video, its id is recorded here and the thumbnail is hidden on pages displaying the embedded video itself. https://i.ytimg.com/vi/u78mNC5KiX8/default.jpg Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Santa Clara Public Memory through Plaque Description An account of the resource I decided to go on a walk, which is something I do on a regular basis. However, in the spirit of using walking as a methodology, I decided on the fly to turn my morning walk into a walking lab, a la the inspiration of scholars Stephanie Springgay and Sarah E. Truman, who wrote that “As you amble to your destination you are still writing. You are writing in movement" (133). So, I decided to “differentiate,” and walk a loop that stopped by the plaques I’d been looking at, which meant I had multiple destinations and would take a path I normally never would in order to complete this proactive loop. So, off I was to the first stop, the Santa Clara Women’s Club Adobe. I walk on The Alameda nearly ever day, and I’d seen the adobe before, and likely have at least skimmed the words on the plaque, but this plaque has turned so many questions over in my head since I’ve invested more thought into a very specific phrase on the plaque: “This adobe, among the oldest in Santa Clara Valley was one of the several continuous rows of homes built in 1792-1800 as dwellings for the Indian families of Mission Santa Clara.” Hold up, what? The plaque states this quote-unquote fact casually, as if it was inevitable, or kind, even, that these homes were built “as dwellings for the Indian families of the Mission.” What does that even mean? And, this is what the plaque does: it offers this information and asks an onlooker to absorb it and move on. It does not encourage questions. It is stated and meant to function as a fact, these homes were built for Indian families. Now go on with your day. The plaque, as a revered form of commemoration, is trusted—nobody suspects plaques of doing anything harmful. But what this plaque does, in saying what it says, is dissolve the space’s memory into a simplified, historicized version that both justifies whatever happened to these Native families and the Native people in the region, all at once, even though it can be assumed these “Indian families” weren’t really “of the Mission” at all. The plaque does not address any reasoning behind a need to build these people dwellings, or the perspective of the Native people in relationship with these dwellings, the Mission, and the land. The plaque says “this happened, these homes were built for these people.” On my walk, I kept thinking about that. What are these plaques doing? They say something, and in saying that specific something, they draw away from everything else that relates to the space, that matters to the space. The plaque in front of Mission Santa Clara shares another line that offers some semblance of Native memory that, in fact, conveys almost no memory at all: “It once had the largest Indian population of any California Mission.” Firstly, this is a sad attempt at acknowledging a Native presence and memory. Furthermore, it erases Native presence from the present itself—the language insinuates that Natives are no longer a part of this space, and not only that, but their not-belonging in this space is simply happenstance, simply the ways things are. Inevitable. As I walked down Homestead between Junípero Serra and the Carmelite Monastery, I was thinking about plaques, and words from Bradford Vivian came up in my mind: “What is repeated is always the same.” That’s it, I thought! That’s part of what plaques do. They concretize a specific, concise version of history at the sentence level and they repeat it, again, and again, and again, for each visitor, for each read, for years, and years. Those sentences become internalized. To the viewer, those sentences become the past. The plaque has done a consideration of the past for you, and has presented all you need to know. The plaque becomes the past. And that’s it. You keep walking. Plaques take on an active role in our memory-making, past-invoking, future-forming processes. Before taking this project on, or delving into understanding public memory for the first time, I didn’t realize how many plaques there are in our community, doing memory work for us. But they’re everywhere. Never before would I have considered all that the plaque was doing, and all that it failed to do. But I want to start considering what plaques do to my sense of the past—what any commemorative objects and structures do in creating my sense of the past. And I urge other community members to do the same. Go on a walk, and ask more questions when you do. 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For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. Title A name given to the resource Excerpt from 'An authentic narrative of the shipwreck and sufferings of Mrs. Eliza Bradley, : the wife of Capt. James Bradley of Liverpool, commander of the ship Sally which was wrecked on the coast of Barbary, in June 1818…' Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Bradley, Eliza, 1783- Subject The topic of the resource Bradley, Eliza, 1783-; Sally (Ship); Shipwrecks -- Arabian Peninsula.; Arabs -- Social life and customs. Description An account of the resource Excerpt from the 1820 American edition 'An authentic narrative of the shipwreck and sufferings of Mrs. Eliza Bradley, : the wife of Capt. James Bradley of Liverpool, commander of the ship Sally which was wrecked on the coast of Barbary, in June 1818…' printed by James Walden that consists of pages 54 through 61. Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Printed by James Walden Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource 1820 Type The nature or genre of the resource text Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource 8 pages Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context WaldenBradleyExcerpt.pdf Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived G530 .B7 1820 Language A language of the resource English Relation A related resource Santa Clara University, Archives & Special Collections Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Public domain in the United States https://dh.scu.edu/exhibits/files/original/68/2393/CobbeDutiesExcerpts.pdf 0948aa91bc8cc6ab1f7f63ba8124f8b7 PDF Text Text 96 LEC'.l'C n m III. subject of the Duti es arising from tho tics of Natural Rcla.tionship . I-Ioly ancl blossccl thin gs that they arc! I aiu pers uaded that oven tho best and happiest of us only half apprehencl th eir bcnutifol meaning, and that we must look to tho life beyond tho gl'avo to int erpret for us all their significance. In tho no:xt Lecture we shall discuss a very difficult que st ion inclcecl- thc Dntios of ri , Vifc- and then tho Duti es of tho :Mistr ess of a Household. LECTURE I\T. Dldi"esof· Contr act-- 1Vives-}' riends. . • · 0 • f. p ASSING from Du ties ar1,,nnt:> i om tho. tics. of Bloo(l. , l cit wn,:1oi . . ,, .l) (I)nronts and Children, .Sisters, Broth01s l ,e •" . f tho oxccoclino-ly important class o anc,, so on), v.·o i•onch « , o Duties foundoclon Contract; pro-eminent ly on tho great Contl'act of 1\l ,rn 1UAGi,;. . . . 'rh o for mal :Marr iage Cont ract of most c1v1hzccl nations includes two natu rcll, and one cirliflcinl obliga.t ion. First there is tho mut ual prom ise of Conj ugal Union, to which is added a mut ual ongagomont of exclusive Fidelity of each to each . 'l'his is strictly speaking lite i\Iani ago Vow ; tho one essential promise among monogamous races. But tho entrnnco into this bond br ings tho contract ing parties so much more closely together than any other human connection, that it follows that they ought to affol'clpr irnetry Benevolenceto 0 110 anothe r, and sook each other' s wolf.ire before all other s ; reser vat ion being 7 �98 LEC'l'0 RE IV . 99 DUTIES 01<' wo:UEN - made of tho rights of those to whom they already owe debts not annullable by tho now contract . Most properly and wisely then, a second promise,-to « honour and cherish " each other, in sickness and health, poverty and riches, is, almost universally, added to the original simple vow of Fidelity . The obligation is acknowledged and r einforced by the vow; but it arises independently from tho nature of the r elationship. A third vow of the wife is aclc1edby tho ]~nglish Church, and by many other Churches-namely, tho Vow of Oonjuga.l Obeclience . Of this I sha.Uspeak in its tu rn . All the world acknowledges tho sanclity 0£ the first 0£ those vows, emphatically in the case of tho wife . The offence 0£ Adultery, which is the infraction of the vow if no lono·or judiciaJly punished in Europe as it , o l . once was, is yet commonly visited by the pcna tics o£ social ostracism . Long may this so continue! 1'iany of you will think mo har sh for saying it; but it i~ my deliberate opinion that when a womau l1as committed the enormous doub le crime , por:;onal . and social, of . l t ·no· the law of chastity, and domg her husband noa1 0 · hl ·onoof brcakino · her marnago oa the mor t.a1 w1 t> t> l i,l . . .·o·h that tho society which s 10 ias 1t 1s fit au d n ° t . l . 0£ th is we close its doors to 101. ld outrage d sho u · 1 11 ·ay more hereafter . s ia s . t tho pleasanter subject of the Duty Passmg now_ o .. l •a·.,,,11riniaryBenevolenceto . t give specia ,••~ L' of W 1ves o . •"a) we meet of com·sc the their bu sbancls (and vice vei10, ' . t · to seek first the :Nior al Good of the · · ble obI10 ·a 10n · 11 mva,r1a "' vv ·vcs cannot be genera y ob·ect of our Bonovolcncc. l . f h .. J d ·th nco·lcctino· the religious 1ntorcsts o t cu O charo-e wi o t. • I hnsb:.ncls,as they under stand them . ~n ~ Iic con iary, fear, they often worry them about bchevmg wb_at they consider necessary to salvation, in an tmreaso1~ing w_ay which prevents tho ughtful husban ds fr~1n sook~ug _,v~th their pious wives that refresh ment of sp1ntua_l hfo which they would find were not all t hose dogmas 1u t~o way. Bnt the higher 1noralgood of tho husband occup10s most wives comparatively little ; and often a man "·ho starts with a great many lofty and disinterested aspirations, clotorio1·ates year by year in a deplorable manner under the influence of a sufficiently well-meaning and personally conscientious wife . If you ask, how can this be? tho answer is, that the wife's affection, being of a poor an d short- sighted ki uc1, sbo constantly urges ]1or husband to thin k of himself and his own interests , rather tha n of the persons and objects for "·]Jieh lie was ready to ~acrificehimself. « Do not go on that charitable errand to-day, you have caugh t a cold. It will answer as ,vell to-morrow." "Do not i1wite that dull old friend ." "Do not join that tiresome co1nmitteo." «J>l'aytake a. long holiday." "By all means buy yourself a new hu'.1t~r." "Do r efrain from con fessing your unorthodox opnnons." 'rhi s kind of thing , chopped every day like the lump of sugar into tho breakfast cup of toa, in tho end produces a, real constitutional chano·o i·u the , · l . ' o mans mmt . IIc bcgms to think himself, first, somewhat of 7 * �100 LECTURE IV . a hero when he o·oes . · t such sweet couns"l . a d .,, . aga1ns th Q · " ,- n then a fool· ind . . en• a . u1,xote-and . , ._ ,." curious iec1procity is also establisbecl · The 11t1sb au d cannot do less than. return the. wife's kindn ess b Y b egging . . 7tel ' not _to distress _and tire herself by performing any duty which costs a httle self-sacr ifice ; and she again returns the complim_ent ancl so on, ancl so on, till they nurse each other into complete selfishness . I ::im sure that many 0£ my aud ience must have seen this exemplified. B ut if, on the othe r hand, the wife ·from the first che r ishes eve ry spark of generous feeling or noble ancl disinterested amb ition in her husb and, and ho, in l1is turn, encourages her in every womanly charity ancl good deed, how they will act and re -act on each other month after month and year after year ; each growing nobler, and loving more nobly,ancl being more worthy to be loved, till their sacred and blessed union brings them togethe1· to the very gates of heaven ! That is what marriage ought to be; what it is to a few choice and most happy couples; and what it might be to a.11 . I shou ld like to have said much on the many ways in which, I think , oulightoncd moral ideas might help wives to make thei r husbands more Jiappy, but I ca.n detain you only to name one 0£ them. 'I'act is an exceli.oni;thing, a precious gift to cult ivate where it _ca_u bo nsed with perfect openness and honesty . . ]3,~t it is one oi tho worst consequences of the subJect1on ~f women, that , in. thousands of cases'. th is tact is . d . to the Art of :M:anag1Ug -a-Ilusbancl. d O-YC!Ope lll DUTrnS OP wo:u~;K( . 10] ~(anronvrcs, crafty wa,ys, wily little concealments, insidious flatteries aud coa.xings with au object ; these arc the .miserable and c1isgracc£u1 means by which many a, well-meaning ,vifc ancl mother is driven to carry out the most innocent plans , tl1c most useful projects £or the family welfare and her chi ldr en ' s education . Do not fall into them , my friends ! Do not, whatever be the clifficnltics 0£ your position, descend to such arts . You may think you make you l' husband happy by "managing" him so clcYcrly for his good; bnt you may dcpcllcl on it, tho ugh his thick masculine brain docs not detect :;.\lond,1y ':; little rus e nor '.l'ucsday's small circ umvention, yet that he bas ::i constant ::l,Jlduneasy sense tha,t he is not treated open ly :inclin an above-board fashion, ancl that yon arc « too deep" for him. I-Io at once mistrusts, fears anrl c1cspi _scs _such a wife. 'l'hc whole sincerity of the 111an1cdlife is spoiled ; aucl in short, whatever numbe r of tricks you 1~,i_'. score, you actually lose the gameIf you could win it a hunch-eeltimes over, it would not be. WOl'th into .,., clomcs t·1c ·,r . .dcoTadiuo· o o ,·ourself J ~' rs . Machia,vcl!t for the purpose ! But now opens upon ns the vc1·y cru,i;of onr sub. cct -tho . Jb l . third vow which a wife ina1· .~cs wh en man ·1cd tic rites of the Church of Eno-1- cl y t i , 01 . o a.n or those of m.ost o tc1 lll! chcs-t hc promise to Ob 0£ ey. course a reason must be fo. h . demanding such a vow th . . . l t coming for ' onglt wo n1ay pl'ivrLtely �102 LEC1'URE IV . suspect tha~ all such reasons dicl not precede, but follow, the simple fact ; ancl that wheresoever la loi d-i, plus f01·t prevails , wives arc con1pelleclto obey; a11d th~ ~ow only add~ a mental £otter to the already exist.lug natural chain, and registers a fait accompli. Some people tell us that it is incumbent on a womau to take and keep this vow, because she is exhorted by St. Paul to "o bey her husband in tho Lord." I cannot fairly argue this point, being too far outside the pale of orthodoxy to consider a moral problem to be solvable by a text . But I would remind those who quote this passage in one Epistle of the groat Apostle , to remember that they arc bound to attach the same authority to a parallel passage in another Epistle, wherein tho same Apostle commands Slaves to obey their Masters ; ancl actually sends back to his chain a runaway who in our day wonld have boon helped to freedom by every true Christian man or woman in America. Tho whole tone of early Christian teaching, jndecd, was one of entire submission to tho "po,v ers that be," even when they were represented by such insane despots as 'l'ibcrius, ?aligu~a and Nero . In our clay, men habitually set aside this Apostolic teaching, so far as it concerns :Masters and Slaves, Despots and their Subjects, as adapted _only to a past epoch . I a1n at a loss to s_oc by wl~atright, having done so, they can claim tor it ~uthonty when it happens to refer to llnsbancls and "l'f1v~s. . Next to cutting tho knot by Authority, I behove DUTIES OF WOMEN . 103 tho advocates o£ Obedience rest their argun1ont otn ' a· . they think almost amoun Expecliency- an expo 1ency t· f . l t ·ouod by tbo prac ice o in<>to a Necessity, auc sane 1 be ~ "How can two walk together except th ey ages. · f 11 b t "How agreed? " was a pertinent question o . o c ; u . can two walk together 1inless one of thern, have it entirely his own way? " is tho query put to us by these persons now. They have become so accnsto~od to tho notion of one ruling and tho other obeying, that auy other kind of anangoment seems to them fraught with peril of dontcstic anarchy . niy dear Friends ! ,Vill you please to toll mo did you over hear of any sort of despotism, groat or small, spiritual c;• temporal, public or private, which was not justified by those who exercised it on these same grounds of its expediency, its convenience, its necessity fol' tl:e benefit and safety of tho governed ? De-es not the Clrnrch of Rome exert its tremendous sway over the intellects and consciences of men, in tho honest persuasion of its hicrarchs that it is good for these sheep to be entirely guidecl by their shepherds? Ras not every empire in history boon founded on the presumption that 0110 supremo and irresponsible Ruler or Autocrnt could govern a nation n1uch bettor than a, nation could govoru itself? Nay, has it not been ~howork ot: ages, not yet accomplished, to make maukmd understand that all the bouofits and conveniences of ~ paternal Government arc too dearly bought by keopmg tho nations in perpetual childhood? �104 LECl'URE IV. IIow is a. Church t o go on wit · hout a supreme Head to deterunne doctrines? .How is a St"te t •·h · ' •• o go on wit out a despotic ruler at the helm? How is a Household to go on ,·vithout an Autocrat to settle all questions by his simple volition? 1.'hcse questions are all very 1nuch on a par . Nay, it ought surely to be much easier for a little household, united by the tenderest ti es, to « get along" peacefully, har1uoniously and prosperously as a miniature Republic, tha.n for Churches to flourish on Congregational pri nciples, or States to rise to glory and prosperity, like that of our blessed England-on the basis of some 111 illions of independent wills. Again ; afte r Authority, and after Expediency and Necessity , Obedience is vindicated by some persons on quite anothe r g round, not its utility to the family generally , or to the State, but its comJ'ortto the obeying party ; the relief it offers to her conscience ; the short cut it affords for getting rid 0£ her " responsibilities." Now I fear I roust have a dreadfully hardened conscience, for it Las never once occurred to me in life that my responsibi lities were th ings which, (if I could only induce somebody to marry me,) might thus be slipped off and laid aside like old shoes. TVhatresponsib ilities , I ask, arc they wl1ichI could get rid of, if I were not a, wretched "failure," and bad a husband to Jove honour and obey? For example-If I saw a ' .d' '' Don't child drowning in a pond, and my husban d sa1 pick it out of the water on any account ; " shonkl I DU'l'I1>S OP WO)fEN . ·------- 105 ---~ -- --~ 'bTt, " by sivcetly taking my o·et rid of my ,. respons1 J L J . "J . • . you o . sayino· use as spouse's arm and walkmg away, ' o> h 1 ' f think right, dear John " ? Of cour~c, ~y t c av.o:Cl p l (, 1·£ John had thrown the child into· the E ngan.1, . h" I . lf and I stood by aiding and abet ting llll '. h imse ' . d . manta l should be bold scot free, as acting un c1 . authority . but I scarcely fancy that my conscience would be 'altogether relieved of the sense of "R espon sibility." Or again, a much commoner case. I have a,n old Aunt, we will suppose, a very tir esome person, (as elderly Aunts I find, a,las ! arc generally considc1·e d to be ;) but she was infinitely good to me when l was a child, ilncl I owe he1· a debt ] of g ratitud e which I can never repay. Now she is old and deaf ancl stupid , and bores my husband to extinction, and he forbids me to invite her to our house, or give her the l itt le cheer and comfort which her · lonely old age can receive . Shall I get ricl of my "responsibility" toward ::.poor old Aunt Dorothy by writing her a little note ancl t elling her, "I am sorry to observe that my husband wishe s me to drop you, and of course it is my dnty to obey"? Herc again (a.ncl in short, in every imaginab le case of a crime to be avoided 01· a duty to be pcrlormcd), I find there is 110 getting rid of tha,t nfan of th e Sea on my shoulde1·s, ,1 i½., Responsibility . i\fy husband or father cannot take it off for me, e,eu if "·c both desire it. .A.nd why? For this reason, iny friends! Because Goo has laid it on me' when He macJc me a,-, · 1F, ree < ,l .na t 1011a �106 - -- 107 LEC'l'URE lV . Agent, not a Dog, or an Idiot ! No vow I c - t k at an lt au ~ e . y a ar can mako it thereafter Rio•ht fo. t d W· . a r me o 0 1011g,or liVrong to do what is Rio·ht r['1. • b . . . a • . ue1e may e sm in 11u1,kingthe vow- I believe there Id b . . . woo eQm mak ing any vow which should make it more diOicult for me thenceforward always to do rio•ht . b t £ o , u no orm of oath can bind mo not to do it, any more than He rod's rash vow ought to have bound him to cut off tho Baptist's head . . Let us theu clear this matter away. Responsibilities, in the sense of moral answorability, cannot be shifted from one to anoth01· on any plea of Obedience aftei· tho human being has reached the ago of £nil moral accountableness . Yon will boar in mind this latter definition . In tho case of filial obedience, the young girl must justly defer to tho moral ji~dgment of her parents (rather than to their a1ntho1·ity,) in all save the most obvious matters 0£ right and wrong . I suppose even tho g reatest stickler £or parental authority would admit that; if a parent bade a child to steal, he ought not to obey . liVhat, then , aro tho responsibilities which uun be deposited in a husband's or parent 's hands? They can only bo those which concern matters not 1noral; matters concerning the pecuniary or other interests of tho family. On a great many of such points the husband will usually be wisest, and may most properly bo treated as ]\,fr. ]\,fillsuggests, as the Senior, or Acting Partner in tho Firm . And if things go wrong, bad invest- DUTIES OP wo~rnN . d so ou, ancl the wife finds n it ments be chosen, an ·d that all tho .L•e. ark afterwa1 s, d any comfort to rem . M . S ·th and that she ha . ·t ·t ·ested with r. f n:n ' h • spo-nsibii y 1 ·t b all means let er 1 . h Y ' 1 Od l1e1· hands o entirely was t · t Probab Y, ·th . ch conso1a 10 11 · soothe herself w1 su l siblo woman, she however if she bo an able anc sen. .·b·1·ty ,, of ' . tho respons1 i t will have p~·o:crrcd, to inc~r~ot to invest in Egyptian strongly adns1ng }Ii_.Smit bonds or Peruvian mines. / . I st ·n more will it; be impossible for any mot ie1 , i . should think, to relinquish any cont r·ol she may . J. , possess over her ch1.1cu·en s nu1••unro and. . education . ,, by way of relieving herself of "Respons1b1lity . lt would be little consolation when Charley has broken his neck, and Edith is in her coffin, that she had. l_eft with their father the whole" Responsibility." of taking Charley out riding on a vicious hnnto1·, and bringing Edith to visit a family in scarlatina. I cannot pursue these arguments in defence of' the principle of Conjugal Obedience . 'ro mo that principle seems irreconcilcablo with tho £nnc1amoutal basis of morality (namely, the full and independent moral responsibility of every adult; human being) ; and (I may add) antagonistic no less to tho very nature of that Lovo and Affection which it is so foolishly snpposcd to guarantee . Love naturally reverses the iclea of obedience, and causes the struo·o·lo between Ob any two people who truly love each other to be not ·who shall com,rnc11nd, but, who shall yi eltl. There is in ( < �108 LEC1'0l?E IV . tho world no harder dt1ty than t our heart's best f .· J I ' o oppose tho will of l lCUC1. WOllld o·o £' th mind you of b . t> ur er, and rea eaut1ful and wise cou l t Of 0 ,vhich so111ehow h · Pe haucer, . as . been repeated almost verbal! b Spensei (Sponsor of th F, • . Q . Y Y p . . l , o aV1y . ueen; not h11nof First nncip es!), a couplet I advise vou all t . memory :J ' o com1mt to " , v11en mastery cometh, theu s1YcctLove anou Flappcth his nimble win.,.s ·ind soou a," .ay 1s . 11 ~ < own." It is au insult, a wrong, a deadly wound to Love for _one of tho lovers to turn round on tho other an~ claim, not the sweet right to sei·ve, but tho bitter rio·ht to comiuand and control. Practica.Ily, we know,t>in happy marriages this claim rarely crops to the surface; bnt the mere fact that it is sous-entenclti iu any discussion seems to me to take tho bloom off conjuga l love . Nor are the act ual consequences of this docti-iue anything short of disastrous . c see one class of wives, of noble, free natures, fretted and galled all their lives by tho fetters which some mean-souled man causes to clank whenever he is in an ill-temper . On the other side , we see another sot of women who become perfec tly passive and silly and " sweetly depend ent; " and at sixty, when their husbands die, t h ey are no better able to manage thoir own affairs than they were at six , IJut beti ·ay by their childishness that the whole moral work of life Jrns been stopped ,v DU'l'JES OF wo~m1-. " . l l·c a century . :My fat her (who hi gh ly for them 101 1a J. ' • , t d f 'fely obedience) nsecl, n eve1tho lcss , o approve O Wl • ·a h ·cmin de cl him o-]1 ht such w1clow s, and sat t cy i 1ano ,. l · h · t tl of clocks with the weight s take n off, ,-vu c in s an y set off bur.z, bur.z, buzz, till they ran down ! . Arc the hii:,blmcls any tho bette r or the h app ier for this monstrous ide a, that they have a ri g h t to the ir wives Obedience? Cert ainly not . It cannot and docs not fail to encourag e th eir ,,,orst fault s of selfishness aucl despotism, ancl to insp ire th em with contemptuous ideas of tho very woman whom it ough t to bo the j oy ancl elevation of th eir souls to h onour . \ Vhcn a 1nan docs really honour liis wife, we sec h ow bea utiful and happy is thci1· married life; but l1e docs it in shec 1· despite of their legal relation, and a ,cr y har d achi eve ment it must be to honour a p er son who is actua lly bot1nd body ancl soul, for life, to obey your orde rs ; and whoso Ycry childr en arc not hers bu t youl's, to tear from her arms if you think fit ! How many of tho awful crimes pcrpc trat ocl claily in E ugl ancl by bruta l ht1sbanc1 s against their wive s wonld neve r have been committe d hacl not the ruffians b een taught by Jaw and cust om to reg ard th eir wives as th eir obedient scrvants, - thoit· prop crt y,-we cannot comp u te . b ut I am convinced that such ou trag es ou women-, su:h wi fetorture ni~cl wife-murclcr, will never cease till tho whole notion of wifely subjection be radic ally cha nged. . I J' ca.nnot pursue th ese <aro·ument s l .CSp e Ct JUO · • b obec tcnce further; but will simply rehe ar se th e con~ �110 ]] ] DU'l'IES Ol!' wo:\(J;N . clusions 1natter . which we SCCIU to h c"Ve <• reac heel on the Adult human beings, whether 1uen or wo•~cu . lB ..., > owe , pecic~ enevolencc,-that is, S1Jecial Sen;ice,-to those person~ _towbmn they arc bouucl either by tics o£Birth, of •Grat1Ludc, or of Contract '['hose o,,. · b so . ' • · • 1J.,1 vices may 9 O I fa1 before all oth ers that, whtlo those pcrso11Sneec1 thom, thoy are bound to pay thom before scokino· to benefit a~y _other human beings . .A.s a parf o£ suc_h s~rv1co it is their duty to yield pleaf'autly and easily 1u all tho sma,ll affairs and habits of lifo; to be perfectly unselfish, affectionate ancl considerate; and never to thwart or oppose the .other uuncccssai·ily. They arc a.lso bound to listen to the counsels and wishes of father or 1nothor, husband or wife, not only with courtesy and patience, but with au honest wish to a.grcc with them, and meet them if it be possible. Beyond this, no adult hnmau being ought to go in tho direction of Obedienc e. '.l'o c1o so would be, not Service, but Slave1·y,or the immoral Obedience of the Jesuit to his Superior; a ilfoi·c~lSnicicle, not to be justified on any plea, whether of authority or precedent , or expediency, or comfort . If 1.1:arriagcnecessari ly involvec1any such Obedience and abnegation of moral responsibility, then I should hold that it was not lawful for any woman to marry ; just as I think it is not lawful for any m~n to b~come a Jesuit a.nd take h is vow of Obedience. Bur, of cou1·se, this is tho very u1atter of our present contention . It is . tho least necessary, that the :M:arria~e oath,not in b . 'procal Promi se o£ F1del1ty, and which ouo·ht to c a l cc1 • ·h kl . . "cal P1·om1·sc of Special Bcncvolcncc,-s ou a rec1pro , , . t· . "dee"to it a vow that one of tho par ,cs have sup01ac1 .L ' , . l ' is to be thenceforth, not only devoted to the ot ier s iuelfa1·e, but obellicnt to his will . . . . But if :Morall!'rccdom be, as I have tried to show , so sacred and solemn a charge that we must never lay it aside even for the clo~cst and tonclcrcst human tic~, how great is the obligation which lies on u~ _to use 1t aright! How monstrous woulc1be tl~o pos1t10n of any woman who should clai.mher cxcmpt1on from filial or conjugal obccliencc on lhc strength of her moral responsibilities-and then should exhibit in her selfish, idle, useless, or worldly life, an utter igno?·a.nco or disregard of all wliich tl1oscawful respon sib ilities to God im,olvc ! No, my friends! Better a thousand times remain the most servi lely obedient of wives in perpetual childhood and dependence, than claim your rank as Human Beings, }.Loral Free Agents ; and then show yonrsclvcs no better than 1nonkcys ancl parrots, 01· wilful, self-indulgent children ! You 1uust awa,kc, if you mean to be the pioneers of a nobler career for your sex, to the charge which lies on yon not to nsc your liberty for a cloak fol' licence . 'I'hcrc arc women who ca.ll themselves "emancipated ,, now, who at'cleading lives, if not absolutely vicious , yet loos~, unseemly, ti-cspassing always on tho borders of vice ; women who treat lightly , anc1as if of small �1]2 ------ I LlW'l'URE IV . accou nt , the heinous an d abom ina ble sins ofu l l t· 1 c las 1ty . and adultery . F'or Gocl's sake my yo•ino- f .- l ' ' <:> ll e U( S b cwa,1'0 of such women ! Shu n them and repndiat; thc~1 as represcntn.t ions of any cmanc ipn.tion which you clcs1rc to share . ,, rhcthcr in the highest ranks , amon<> the " fast " lad ies of fashion , with theit' iucleeorousand undignifi ed habits, (smoking with the men of their society a,t n ight in smok ing -rooms, a,ncl so on) ; or, iu the middle class, the Bohem i.anism which, to young girl. students, seems so enchanting after the p loclclingways of ho mc ,-in both, th is psenclo -emancipntion is equally to be condemned and denounced as having absolutely nothi11g in common with the iuovcment for the true pro g rei-s of women . Beside the duties ar1smg from the great formal Contr act of l\Ia rria gc , the re arc undoubt edly others arising ft-0111the informal and tacit contract of Ji'riend shiJJ- In the older Greek Church and among the Bedouin s there a,re regu larly appointed rites to solemnize the rnutnal adopt ion of l?riends. Such cerci nonics, however, are by no means ind ispensable to o·ive sacredness to the bond of every true and noble :fi,iend.ship of the closer sort ; or to elevate its offices £ fidelity and. mutual serv ice to the rank of moral o · ob ligat ions . I shall return to this subJcct a J'Ltl i e fnr thcr on . 113 DU'J'I};$ OF WOM]~N. . of 1V Duties ' omen as Jl!li'stressesof Jiouseltolcls. . arisino · from. . Bloocl0 .A..fter treating of Du tics ' . . df. the Contract of 1Iarnagc n,ncl Relat1on~l11p,an 10111 t t . at of the Duties which Frienclslnp we come o ic, ,. ·O 1 nc11 whe;•1 we are i\11 s-r1rn s sJ-:s of Jio u:;1 ,,concern n,S ' \ , · . cl to bco·in no JIOLDS' an "' ' I must say at once tl,zt I have . sympathy a,t all with those ladies wh_o arc sec:o~ _g to promote co-operative housekeeping, _l n other "o1,~s ~o abolish the institution of tho Engli sh Hom_c. lh01_c may be indeed, specially g ifted women , artists , musi cians, literary women, whom I could imagine findrng it an intcl'ruption to their pursuits to take charge of a house. But, strange to say, tho11gh I have hac1.a pl'ctty large acquaintance with many of the most eminent of snch women, I have almost invariably found thcn1 particularly proud of their housekeeping, and clever at the performance of all househo ld duties , not excepting the ordering of "judiciou s " dinners . X ot to make personal remark s on living friends , I will remind you that tho greatest woman-mathemat ician of any age , Mnry Somerville, was renowned fot' her good house keeping ; ancl, I can adcl fro1u my own knowledge, was an excellent judg e of a well dressed dejeun er and of choice olcl sherry; ,vhile Madame de Stael , driven by Napoleon from her home, wcut ab out Europe, as it was said, " Preceded by her reputat ion, and followed by her cook ! " . R~Lhc1 · I suspect, it is llOt higher genius , but feebl e iuab1hty to cope with the prob lems of dome st ic govern - £ �114 l LECTURE IV . ment, ,vhich genera lly inspir es the women who . I 1.a·icato thon·. ht. tle household thrones. Some w1s1 t o al) sympatl1y may be given to then1, but I shoull b l I .c e excecc 1ng y sorr y to sec many women catchino·up th cry. and following their leadino· to tho disma1°1 · ,1, eo < C~isJ1'C!1L chis fYlnent 0£ the hon10,- tho practica,1homelessnessof Am~ri can boa,rding houses or Continenta.l pensions . I thinl~ for a woman to fail to make and keep a happy homo, 1s to be a «failure" in a truer sense than to have failed to c::itch a husband . Assur edly tho Englishwoman's Home is tbe English,voma,n's IGngdom, and those homes, with all their faults and shortcomings, tu·o tho glory of our country; b etter glories, I think , than i{ we could transport the Louvre and St . J\i[ark's, or St . Peter's itself across the Chann el. Out of tho Eng lish homo bas sprung much of tha,t wl1i.chis most oxccllont in the national charact er ; and with the ::ibolition of it would follow, I cannot doubt, a dissipation of childhood, and 11, loosening of family tics, whereof tho evil consequences would be measureless. Let mo entreat you theu, whilo doing all yon can to amend the ma.nyand serious defects wlrich cling around our homo system, to lift no hand to break it down. olfako yoi;r homos better and happi er anc1 freer t han they are, but do not e:en speak of tho alternat ive of forsaking them and turnmg ours el vcs into Bccloweons of tho lodging house. 11'or Engli shmen, such a change would be very injurious; for women, it would bo simply disastrous. .'rhe making of a tn, e :Homo is really our pccnhar and 115 DUTIES OF WOMEN • . •·o·ht which no man can take from inalienablerigb.t ; a 11 0 , a Homo than a drone f, . a Man can no more ma1~o us, o1 • h' He can build a castle or a palace , can l)lake a 1ve. c1 . J • I b ho wise as Rolomon an nc L as but poor creat m e • e . ' •t • t a Homo No mascu11110 Crcesus,he cannot turn i 1n o • . . •· l do that It is a woman, and only a woman ' roor...a . can · ·· . erself if f,ho likes, anc1 w1thout a woman a11 by h . any man to help her, who can turn a Ho~so into a Home. vVoo to tho wretched man who d1sput:s bor monopoly, t~nd thinks, because ho can arrang~ a ?lu~, ho can make a Homo ! Nemesis overtakes him 1n lns olcl bachelorhood, when a home becomes tho supreme ideal of his desires; and we sec him-him who scorned the home-making of a Lcicly,-obliged to put up with tho oppression of his cook, or tho cruelty of his nurse! Bt1t it is our privilege, our faculty, to turn any four walls, nay even a tent uncler which we take shelter as we wander about the plains of the East, into a Home, i£ we so please it. Aud shall we relinqui sh tho use of this blessed faculty, auc1be content henceforth, like 1neremen, to be only quartered hero or there , not to be at homo anywhere? Why even tho little beavers, left in a drawing-room, set about making a dam,-a beaver's Home, out of tho coal-scuttle and tho rug and tho fire-irons! Shades of our grandmothers keep us fro1u such degeneracy. But not to pursue this spectre, let us take our stand p1 ·0 wris et focis, aud see what Duties belong to us in 8* �116 LEC'l'URE IV. right of our Rome -R ule . (\~ e, women, are the tr~ Horne Riilers , Parne ll and Co. arc impostors .) In the first place, if Homo be our kingdom, it inust be our joy and privilege to convert t.hat cloma, ·u . , as qu10kly and as perfectly as we may, into a little Province of the Kingdom of God : for r emember what I have said all along; that we may look on all our duties iu this cheering and boa,utiful light-first to set up God's kingdom in our own hearts, making them pure and true and loving; and then to make our homes little provinces of the same kingdom; and lastly to try to extend that kiugdon1 throug h the world; the empire of Justice, Truth , and Love . Wo arc entirely responsible for our own souls ; and very greatly responsib le £or those of all the chvellers in our homes; and, in a lcsse1· way, we arc answerable for each widening circle beyond us . IIow shall we set about making our Hoines provinces of the Divine l( iugdom ? 1st . Nobody must be 1norally tho worse for living nnde1· our roof, if \YO can possibly help it. It is the 1ninirniim, of ou1· duties to make sure that temptations to misconduct or intempe rance arc not left in any one's way; or bad feelings suffered to grow up ; or habits of moroseness or domineering formed ; or quarrels kept hot, as if they were toasts before tho kitchen fire . A.s much as possible, on the contrary, everybody must be helped to be botter,-uot made better by .A.ct of the Dl'aw ing Room, l'Omcmber, that is irnpossiblc ,-but ltelpecl to be better . '!'he way DUT!F.S OF \VO)IEN . 117 ' . e1·•boi- vorv much to scold, . I ppreheno is n " J h to do th 1s, a ' . . to church whet er ·t r insist on people go1ng or exho1 , 0 d. F .... ,Jv Pra.yors (excellent ·t ot orl'0a ino · a.,_.iJ • ' they like i o1· n ' . -~ b ' but rather to spread though that practice :a ,y ::roosphero of frank con throu<Yhthe house sue an ' cl o and kindliness with servants, and of love _an jJ. ence ,. t b J feehn o·s trust with children and relations, as t1la a .o . l temptat10n, and doings will really 1iavc no p a00 ' 110 ancl if they intrude, will soon clio out. . One such point out of many I may here cite as specially concerning us women . Is it not absurd for a lady who spends hundreds of pounds and thousaucl:sof hours on hol' toilet, and takes evident pleasure in attracting admiration in fashionable ra.iment not always perfectly doceut- ·to turn anc1lectu re poor l\Iary Ann, her ho usemaid, on sobriety in attire , and set forth to her the peril and folly of flowers in her bonnet? '£ho mistress who dresses modestly and sensib ly, may reasonably hope in time that her servants ,vill dress modestly and sens ibly likewise ; but certainly they will not do so while she oxliibits to the ir foolish young eyes tho example of extravagance ancl folly. 2nc1. Next to tho Virlne of those who live in our homes, their Il.appiness shonkl occnpy us . In the first place, no creatu re nnclor our roof should ever be miser a,blc, if we can pr0\7 Cnt it . In h ow rnany otherwise happy homes is there not one such 111ise rable being? Sometimes it is tl_10sufferer's own fault: their 1uincls arc warpocl and dcspan·Inl, and om· utmo~t efforts pcrhap can only c.a �118 119 LECTURE IV. cheer them a litt le. But much oft..-. . th . f d . vlleI ere lS t b oun in a large household some , o e fallen, throug-h no faul• i·nto th po_or crbeat ure whohas ~ ", e m1sota lo ·r th e family butt; the obiect of ·n- t , 'J pos1ion of . t J i na tu ect and unfeelin Jes s and rude speeches . the last , g an l ' per son to be !riven "' a y p easnre, . . and the first person to b o made to suffer ny pnvat10n or ill-temper . Sometimes i·t 1.s a poor a ooverness or tutor; sometimes an old t ,1 • aun or poor i e at1on ; now and then, but rarely in these days, astu id servant _; most often of all, a child, who is perhap~a step-child , or nophe w, · or niece · of tho mistress of the house, . someway, , d or. alas. ! her . own child. , only deformed 1n or oficient in n1tollect. 'l'hen tho hapless frio· htened 0 creature, afr~id of punishment, looks with furtive glances a_t the frowning faces about it, tr ies to escape by some little transparent cleceptiou, and only incurs the heavier penalty of falsehood ancl tho name of a liar; and so tho evil goes on growing day by day. It is astonishing and horrible to witness how the deep-seated frightful human passion, which I have elsewhere na med I:leter<Y_Pathy ,develops itself in such circumstances · - the sight 0£ suffering and down-trodden misery exciting , not pity, but the reverse; a sort of cruel aversim~ in the by standers , till tho whole household sometimes joins in hating the pooi· helpless and isolated victim. My friends, if you ever sec anything approaching to th is in your homes, fol' God's sake set your faces like n. flint against it ! If you dislike ancl mistrust the poor victim yourself~ as you probab ly wil1 clo at nrst, never DU'l'IF,$ OF WON J.;N. . ·t tho first thino · to be done . d I Tal·e my word f 01 l J 0 ~lll . 17" 'o-~OD1of Goel is to do Ju Sl 'IC}J to all,- to 1n tl1e .D-Ulo r even loath . . that no creature, however moan, o secme . t' If vou are some should be treated with inJUS ice. J •, as I' am supposing, mistress of tho house, stop th~s . . h ' ·h h l . and if --.-ouhave been 1n persecution with a 1g anc , J . • • h , m o in it if it be yoiir chshko w h1ch you any way to b , , see thus reflected in the faces of your doponda,nts, repent your great fault, and ma.kc amends to your victim. If you arc not mistress, only a guest perhaps , or a humble friend, even then you can and ought to do much ; you can look grave and pained whenever tho butt is laughed at and jeered ; ancl you can deliberately fix your eyes on him, or her, with sympathy , and treat hi.mv;1ith respect . Evon these little tokens of condemnation of what is going on will have (you may be sure), a startling effect on those whose custom it has become to treat the poor soul with contempt ; and they will probably be angry with you for exhibiting them. :Youwill never have borne resentment for a better cause l Nor is it only human beings who are thus n1adc too often household Yicti1ns. You must all know houses whore some unlucky animal-a cat or cloo·-bco·innino· 0 0 o by being tho object of somebody's senseless antipathy , becomes the general sm~ff're -doitleiw of masters and servants. Tho dog or cat (especially if it happens to be chcnshoc1 b! the human victim) , is spoken to so roughly, driven out of every room , and , pe1·ha,ps �120 LECl'UllE IV . puni shed for all sorts of offc . nces it has nnttcd that th • never cou1• , e annual assumes a downcast su k. aspect wb · h · • < , ca Ill" ' ic in evitably produces £.1 h "' l t cs aucl fresh ie /ro?-'athy. You attempt, perhaps, to give it a little pa of sympathy, ancl the poor frio·htened be t at . . "' as snaps , you , expecting a blow . or runs off to 1 · 1 d . ' llC C UU Cl' a so £a . Tuiistre sses of homes ! don't. let the. b l IC Ca ( Oil' or a cat, or a clonkcy, or tiny othe r creat ure, in ~;. about your home s, wh ich shr inks· wl1eu a, . man or "'?m an app r oaches it ! And here I may add, that w_1t~ out th us spec ia.lly victin1i:r.iug the animals through di sli ke, a household frequent ly iuake s the life of some poor brute one long martyrdom th rough neglect. The re spons ibili ty for this neglect lies primarily with the lllistress of the house . She must not only direct he1• servants , but see that her di?-ectionsbe carried outJ in the way of affordin g water , and foocl, and needful exercise . A pretty "1Gn gc1om of Heaven" some hoL1ses would be if the poor brutes could speak; houses possibly with prayers going on t wice a day, and grace said carefully before long luxurious meals,-- and all the time the chil dren 's bircls ancl rabbits left untended in foul cages without fresh food ; mice th rown out of the traps on the fire ; aged or cliseasec1 cats, or superfluous puppi es g iven to boys to destroy in any way their cruel inven tion may suggest ; fowls £or tho consumption of the house carelessly and barbarously killed; and, worst of all, tho poor house -clog, perhaps some loving-hearted lit tle Skye , or noble old mastiff or retriever, con- 121 · w 1u·ch . £or life to the pena 1ties . we should . dcmncd .t f lefaotors : chained th · l · too sc,Tcrefor tho wors o ma Ill ' h 11 the Ion o· br i o-bt su1u1nor up by the neck thro~g a . ~ . ,: ater -trou<>·h days under a burmng- sun , wit~ 1ts . e" unfilled for days, or through tho winter's fro~t in so1:1v • w1 -.·til cold 'and 1n a.o ·on1es dn-rk sunless corner, £roe11rng e . £·0 1· wan t of st l,·aw- or tho chance of of ·rbe11ma,t1sm wa1·miuo · itself at a fire, or by a run in the snow . And 0 all' this as a reward £or t ho poor br ·utes' · ficlcYi ty I. vVhcn this kincl of thing goes on for a certain time, of course tho doo· becomes horribly c1iscascc1 . llis longing to bound ove; the frosh g rass-expressed so a.ffoctingly by his leaps and bonncls when ,vo approach bis miserable duugcon, - is not merely a longing for bi s uatural pleasure, but for that which is ind ispensable to bis health, namely exorcise, and tho power to cat grass ; a.ncl, if refused, ho very soon falls into disease : his beautiful coat becornes mangy and red; ho is irriktblc, ancl becomes revolting to everybody , and the nurse C!·ies to · the children , who wore hi s only friends ancl visitors, "Don ' t go nea r that clog '" 1 say it deliberately, the 1uistress of a h ouse in whose yard a dog is thus kept like a fo,·r;at-ouly ,vorse treated than any murd erer is treated in I ta.ly-i s guilty 0£ a vei·y grecit sin; and till she has ta.k en ca,re that Lho dog has his daily exercise and w11tor, a,nd that the cat ancl the fowls and every ot her sent ient crea,tu r e under her roof is well ancl kindly trea ,tecl, she ma,y as "ell, Corshame's sake, give up thinking she is ful - �] 22 123 LECTURE IV . DUTIES OF \VOJIIEN. fillin?" ~er duties by reading prayers and sub ,.b. to m1ss1ons. sen mg I assl.lllle tha t the master of the house whe tl . ·11 , re iere lS one, w1 ' as usual, look after the stable d t Wh th · epar meut er~ er~ is no master, or he does not interfere. t he mistress is _surelyresponsible for humane treatmeu; of the horses, lf she keep any Furthe r I th·1 1 1d · · , n,ove ry a y is bound to insist that any horse which draws her shall be free from the misery of a beariiio-·e· Drm . She ought not to allow her vanity n-ud ambition to be fashionable, to induce her to connive at her coachman's laziness and c1·uclty . vVhen the l\fist rcss of a house has done all she can to p1·event the su'{/01·ing, mental or physical, of any creature, human or infra-human, under her roof, there remains still a delightful £old for her ability in actually gvving pleasure . We all know that life is made up chiefly of little pleasures and little pains; and how many of the former arc in the power of tho mistress of a house to provide, it is almost impossible to calculate. But lot any clever woman simply take it to heart to make everybody about her as luippy as she can, and tho result I believe will always be wonderful. Let her see that so far as possible, they have the rooms they like best, the little articles of furniture an<l ornament they prefe1·. Let her order 1neals with a careful forethought for their tastes, and for tho 11ecessitiesof their health; seeing that every one has what ho desires, and making him feel, however humble in positioJJ, • been remembored . Let her not that his tastes have . t the position of tho . such atteJJtion o disdam to pay '-' ·1 dwellino--rooms as d fas of tho iam1y o d chairs an ~o '.. . a be comfortably place ' that every in(hv1dual m y t been left out in tho and feel that he or she has no_ let her try, not so .A.nd after all these ca1es, . cola · did and ,-csthct1cally much to make ho1· rooms sp1en ' . d . ]- them thorouo·bly habitable an admirable, as to ma....o o them . comfortable £or those who arc to occupy th t ·' . comfort ia. th 01, than her .own ros e ict reo·ardino-then· . 0 0 ' brig · ht an d clean ' ' swec. o-ra1·ca1 , o t .fi t ·on. .A.di·awino·-room, :,ith flowers in summer, or with driecl rose leaves 111 winter . with tables at which the inmates may occupy themselves, and easy chairs wherever they a1·ewanted; and plenty of soft light, and warmth, or else of coolness adapted to the weather-this sort of room belongs more properly to a woman who seeks to make her house a province of the IGngdon1 of Hecwen, than one which might be exhibited at South Kensington as havino to the Kingdom of Qiwen,Anne! o· belono-ed o 'rhen for the moral atmosphere of tho l1ousc, which depends so immensely on the tone of tho mistress ; I will venture to make one recommendation. Let it bo as gay as ever she can make it . Thero arc numbers of excellent women-the salt of tho earth-who seem absolutely oppressed with their consciences, as if they wero congested livers. 'l'hcy arc in a constant state of anxiety ancl care; and, perhaps with tho addition of feeble health, :!inclit difficult to get through thei r ~ �124 ] 25 LEC1'URE IV. duties c:xcept iu a, c ·t . 1 er a1n ach1·ymose and d l f: ·l . a,s uon . Houses whe1·e these . o orous women re1 0-n seem l a ways under a cloud w·th . . "' , i ra11 1 rmpendin conceive that o·ood a d 1. g. N J. ow I o , u even no·h animal . ·t among the most blessed f "" . , spins , are to h o possessrous,-a ctual wiuo-s car us up over the 1 t "" . c us Y or muctdy roads of life . and I thmk that to keep up the spirits o£ a h , hold , i,; not only indefinite ly to add to ·t h , _ouseb t 1 i s appiness u a so to make all duties comparatively lio-ht ancl easy . Thus, however nat urally depressed a ~ - t · m1.1vb I tl · 1 h 1s ress • J e, un.;: s e ono·ht to st ruo·o-le to b 1 f l d "" "'"" e c 1eer u , an to tak_e pains never to quench tho blessed spirits her olnldl'en or guests . All of us who live louo1n gr eat cities get into ft sort of subdued-chee1-fulnes: tone . . vVe are neither very sad nor very glad ; we neither cry, nor ever enjoy tliat delicions experience of helpless langhtcr , tho Joib rire which is the j oy of youth . I wish we could be more r eally light of l1cart. ?f A few worJs must suffice upon the vexed question of Servants . I do not represent to myself a household as a Despotism, so much as a Community, wherein some persons (the servants ) have cont1·acted, on ce1·taiu te rms, to perfor m a certain class of services for tho heads of the house, the il' children and g uest;:. 'rhc mistress (it is part of the contract) is authol'izecl to give direction s at all moment s how Lhosc services arc DUTIES OF WOMEN . cl she is also author i~ed (it is to be performe~ ; au h f it·ther directions respecting . t "' t VO sue l i' unclerstood ) 0 "" b't . f the sorvants•, the ir hours 1or tile dress and ha i s o t ' ey sha.11adroit into the the persons n ' coming homo, appea r necessary £or the order &c as may , z• t . s IiOuse · ' ., But with these cw ec ion. aud safeguard of the house. . . Into . l . . . ciuthonl:y are exhausted . I thmk hcl' c aims to . . . t of any leisul' e t une her servants the emplo3-men h may she as no h a,' e, and their pr ivate affairs genera lly, .111t J t all . . • · t f thci1 · contract to l'UCio a ' .' rio-ht, 1n vn· ue o ' .. I cannot but think that the recognition of this lino of demarcation, tho formal r elinquishment of tho patriarclial relation (which can only now be really maintained in excoptioM1l cases), and the carefu l obsel'vanco of the contract , wonld be the safest, as it is the tl'uest, basis £or our £utul'C relationship with our servants. vVhen this basis is fairly laid, I think servants can be bette r brought to respect tbcil' side of tho contract ; to do ns j ust and ho11est service for honest wages ; and, motaphorica]ly and litcl'ally, to "sweep under the mats ." '1:hcro remains, outside of their actual service, or of any assnmpt ion of a11thority on our side, nn actually limitless field for tho exercise of our natural influence as thei r immediate superiors and friencls. a:a Ono word iu concluding these remarks on ·vvoman's duties as a Ifoms Frciu. If we cannot perfo rm these well, if we arc not orderly enough, clear- headed enough , �126 LECTURE IV . po·wo~~fulenough in short, to fulfil thi . . ~ functaon of our sex well d tl s unmemol' 1al au 1orouo·hl ·t · what foolish of us to pre ss to b llo Y, l is some. 0 a owed to shar · th •, o g roat Ho11sokcopiug of ·tho State . M e tn and honoured friend 'l'hood , p ·k . y beloved . . ' o1e a1 er, aro-ucd r., h adm1ss1onof woiuen to tho full rio·hts of hio1t e 0 shal'e iu o· . ci iiens p and . oove1nmont, on tho exp1·oss "'rounds that " women keep h b dl o ,ew a ouse so a y or with such wastefulness s Chancellors of the Exchequer keel) tho St t . wo 1 . £ a e , and man y g~mus or organization applied to the affail's of the nation would be oxti-emoly cc . 1 b fl . 1 onom1ca and enc c1a . But if wo cannot keep our houses, and manage our servants, this arg ument, I am afraid, will be ~m:.ned the othet· way, a.nd we shall be told that not hav1~g used our one talent, it is quite out of question t_o g1ve_us ten; having shown ourselves incapable iu httle tluugs, nobody in their senses will tt-ust us with great ones. ·t LEC TUREV. Duties of' Wo-nwnas JJ1embe1·s of Soci·ety. IN the Second Lect1u·eof this Course I spoke of tho PIYl ·sonal Ditties of,~, omen. In tho Third LocL~ro_wo discussed their Social Dillies generally, bcgi.nmng with their Dntics as 1Vlo 1nbors of Families, 1Iothcrs , Dauo·htcrs, Sisters, &c. In tho Fourth Lcc~ure I spoke of the Dntics of vVi,cs and r.Iist'.osscs.or llousoholds. Vvc now come to tbc cons1dorat1on of tho Dnties 0£ a Woman as a ][ember of Society ; rosoeving for our last Lecture her Duties as a Citizen of tho State and :M:cmbel'of the Human Race . 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Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Williams and Norgate Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource 1881 Type The nature or genre of the resource text Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource 30 pages Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context CobbeDutiesExcerpts.pdf Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived HQ1221 .C65 1881 Language A language of the resource English Relation A related resource Santa Clara University, Archives & Special Collections https://dh.scu.edu/exhibits/files/original/68/2395/MontezBeautyExcerpts.pdf 4519c386a21e2223f191701291c3b21a PDF Text Text ARTS OF BEAUTY. CHAPTER I. FEMALE BEAUTY. " Look upon this face , Examine every feature and proportion, And you with me must grant this rare piece finish'd . Nature, despairing e'e r to make the like, Brake suddenly the mould in which 'twas fash ion'd; Yet, to increase your pity, and call on Your j ustice with severity, this fair outside Was but the cover of a fairer mind ." MASSINGER'S Parviament of I.01Je. Ir is a most difficult task to fix upon any genera l and satisfactory standard of female beauty, since forms and qualities the most opposite and contraidictory are looked upon by different nation s, and by different individuals, as the perfection of beauty. Some will have it that a beautifnl woman must be fair, while others conceive nothing but brnnettes to be handsome . A Chinesebelle must be fat, have small eyes, short nose, high cheeks, and feet which are not longer than a man's finger. In the Labrador Islands no woman is beautiful who has no ·: black teeth and white hair 19 �20 THE ARTS OF BEAUTY. 21 F DIAL E BEA 'GTY· In Greenlan . th . d and. some other norther n couLtries women pamt then· faces blue, and some yeIIow• Some ' e . n a t 10ns squeeze the head s of children bet . . . '' ce.n &oar ds t o mal'"e them squ,are, wlnle others prefer th h sugar-loaf as the hio·hest t,·pc of beau ctys J.'ape of a . o J tOr that important top-piece to the "human form divin " S that ther e is nothing tru er than the old pi· ~b· 1 " tl . . . OVCl , t lat 101.e . 1s no. accountrnofor ta stes ,, 'r1i· ~ · · 1s <l'Lffcrence ?fopuuon with respect to beauty in ,ariou s countries 1s, ho" ·e,er, principally confined to color and form, and may, undoubted ly, be traced to na t ional habits and customs. Nor is jt fa,ir, perhap s, to oppose the tastes of uncivilized people to the opinions of civilized nations. But tllen it must not be overlooked that the standard of beauty in civilized countri es is by no means ao-recd . l o upon. IN 01t 1cr the bu,ona,roba of the Italian s, nor the Zinda of the Spaniard s, nor the embonpoint of the French, can fully rea ch th e myst ical standard of beau,ty to the eye of American taste . And if I were to say that it con ists of an indescribable combination of all these, still you would go beyond even that, before you would he cont ent with the <lefinitiou. Perhap s the best clcfiuit ion of beauty ever given, was by a French poet, who called it a certain je ne sais qnoi, or, I don't k 1w11 ° 1 wliot ! 'fhc following classical synopsis or female beauty, which h as becu attributeu. to Fclibien, is the best I reroembcr to have seen : " The head should he well rounded ancl look ra ther inclining t o small t han lar ge. " The forrhe n.d white , smooth, and open ( not with the hair growing down too deep upon it) , 11cithc.r fb~ . lt but lil·e th e head well rounded, n.11I nor pro:mne, , , \. , rather small in proportion t ha.n lar ge. "Tllc hair cithel' black, bright l>rown, or n.nhurn , not thin, but full and waving, and if i t falls in mode~ rate curls, the bett er-t he black i;:; parti cnh1rly n<:dnl in setting off the whiteness of th e neck and skin. "The eyes b lack, chestnut, or blite ; clear, bright , and }iye}y, an<lrat her large in proportion t han small. " The cycl>rows ·well divided, full, sctllicircular, and broader in the middle than at th e end ·, ora neat tm•n, but not formal. "The checks should not be wide, shouhl lrnYe a degree of plumpness, with the r ed a11cl wh ite ii1wly blended together, ancl should look firm and soft . "T he car should be rathe r small, well foldeLl, a11cl ba\~e au agreeable tinge of reel. "Tll o nose should be phcc d o as to di ride the face into equal parts ; shonld be of a moderate size, st raight., a.nclwell squarct1, though somet imes a litl lc rising in the middle, which js ju ~t pcrcci,·ablc, may gi r o a ,cr y graceful look to it. "Th e mouth should be small, and th e lips not of ~qual thickness ; th ey shouhl be well t urned , small, ~a~llCr than gross, soft cYcn to the eye, and ,,i th a ltvmn· .. U10 111; a truly pr ett y mouth is like a roseo red . rn bi~cltha~ i q beginning to blow. The t 0eth should ])e uucldlc-~1zct 1, white, well r ancrcd 8.nd e-vcn ,, The chin of a modcr:t e size whi.te ~oft ..,ncl t!"' • l. } 7 n t- 1CCau Y rounded. IC 'I'I "C neck shC\ uld bc w lli· t C; st r~1 in-ht and of " 0 rt V ' J ' '-' u,, ... ~ • �22 THE ARTS OF B EAUTY. FE:.\fALE BEAUTY. easy, flexible make ; rathe r lon°· than short J S" b • 0 • • , e ~ a eve antl mcreasrng gently to,vards the shoulder s . h' 1 ·t d d 1· f · ' t e w.11 eness an e 1cacy o its skin should be continued or rather go on improving to the bosom • tl1c s1·· · ' , -..111 ill general should be white, properly tinged with red and a look of thriving health in it. ' . "The shoulders should be white, gently spread, and with a much softer appearance of strength than in th ose of men. " The arm should be white, round, firm and soft, and more pa rticularly so from the elbow to the hands. " 'l.1hchand should unite insensibly with the arm • it ' should be long aud delicate, and oven the joiuts and nervous part s of it should be without either any hardness or dryness. " The fingers shoultl be fine, long, round and soft ; small and lessening to the tips, and the nails rathel' long, round at the end s, and pellucid. " The bosom should be white and charming, neither t oo large nor too small ; tho brea sts equal in roundness and firmness, rising gent ly, and very distinctly separ atc cl. " The sides should be rather long and the hips wider than the shoulder s, and go down rounding and lessening grad ually to t ho knee. " 'l1he knee should be even and well rouudcd. " The lco-s strai o-ht but varied by propor rounding o o l of tho more fleshy par ts of them, and finely turncc, white 1 and small at t he auklo." It i~ very fo1tunate , however, for the hnmai~ rnrc tliaL ~Jl men do not have exact ly a correct tast e !ll thc f •r th had a fatal clCQTCC matter ,)f female beauty, or I ey , '1 h uld '"')OS· of strife would be likely to ensue as to w 10 s o I _I scss the few types of perfect beauty, Tb:. old ma~1" l~ rejoiced that all did not sec alike, a; if they ,d1~1,al1 wonId be after his wife, was not far Ot1v of the ~a ) . �IIOW '!0 GET A GOOD IlEAD OF HAIR, . A d the mornincris the best tim3 for an ·ttl hair n o h . . bl'l e · . . f the bru ·h becau se the air 1s ded application o · ' . exten ' I then tban at any other t11nc. t l"' lly more supp c • . 1 ll on._u••. t' thorouo·hly persevered in, will grn.( na y Tluspi ac ice, n l tl . . , some 1e 1,orcn1)inc hen.cl,un css 101 c b tl tame c1own . . tl f ll ,. o . ,, of the scalp m which case 10 o o" rn~ scurfy(11se~h,e ' sure remedy :wash "1..·11be found 'a auitc ... CIIA PTER XXI now TO ODT.\.IX A GOOD IlE1\.D OP IL\.IR. T:aE foundation of a o-ood head 0 c 11 . . 1b l au ouo11t In◄ uouute dly to be la.id iu infancy At t1, . t <lo l d t11s cu er ao-r a_n. thro ugh all tho years of childhood, it shouldob~ " o1n sh~rt , be frequently cut, and never allowed to o-o a day w1th~at a thorough brushing. It shoulclal; every mornmg, be washed at the roots with cold wa~ tor. A_ <lamp sponge, rnhbc<l thoroughly upon the scalp, will ~c sufficient. 'l1ho practice of combingthe heads of children too frequently with a fine tooth comb is a ba<l one, as the points of the tooth are quit.csure to scratch and irritate the scalp, and are almost sure to pr oduce scurf or dandruff. Indeed, these rules, except as to tho lengt/1,of tho hair, arc quite as applicableto adults as to childr en. 'l1he ladies of my acquaintance, who have been most cclcbratcc.1for the beauty of their hair, usually made a practice of thoroughly cleansing its roots e,-ery morning with tho damp sponge. .Kor would they venture to neglect the frequent use of tbc brush. Ind eed, the coarsest, most refractory, and snar ly lo cks can be subdued, and made compnrativcly sofL antl glossy by tho use of tho brnsh alone. Constant brusl1,ir1gis the first rule to subdue coarse and ,1 <., Si • 83 Saits of tartat· • • • Tincture of canth:uidcs • Spirits of camphor • · Lcmonjuicc. • · · . . . 3 dr~chms. lS drops. l ;3 drop'.;. • t .,1 pm. In preparing this wash, the s~lts should be cli~.;;olved inthe lemonjuice, till the cffervescense ceases, and then add the other ingredients ; and, n.fter Jetting tho Vt·holc remainexposed to the nir for ha1f an hour, it may be perfumedaml bottled for use. This is one of the best and most harmless washes for the hnir I have ever known. I am certain that a lady or gen tlcman h1s but to try it to ho c01winrcd of its efficacy. But let me impress upon you the importanc e of bruslli11gas a cal'dinnlmeans of beautifying the bair. Brnsli not one minnte,but tcn---notonce a day , but two, or three, or four t:mcs a day. Two brushes arc ::irlispcnsablc for the toilet-one for the rough nsc of cleaning tho hair, nncl the other for po1ishingit. A b1a.ck brush shonh1 be used for the former,ant1 a white one for th(' lnttc r. L::ulic"' need 1wt be told that washing ~roils hrushes. The way to clean them is tn rnh them thoron~hl.\· ,vith bran, which removes all the grrasc, and k1,c" the br1sl10sstiil' and �84 'l'HE ARrs OI,' BF,....L'1'Y. ~rm as ever. ,Yh eu the bristles of a br . lunber for nsc, they may be l. ·d . , u~hbecometoo . uat e,1cd ao-amb a· . th cm rn one part of spirits of . o Y ipprng ,' , ammonia and t . f ter . l his will also tborouo•hly cl ', I "o o wa. greasy substances. b en.use t 10111fro.nall CIIAPTER XXII. TO PREVEXT THE IlAIR FROll F.ALLIXG OFF. A RE.\rEDY for weak aud falling hair ha,s been sou~ I. t for by beautiful women, and by men too, with as muc;h aridity as ever the mad euthu iast sought for the philosopher's , tone. I have known ladies who did nothiug·bnt to huut recipes for baldness. 'rhc knowledge of all their friends, especially if they were physicians, was laid under perpetual c;ontrilmtion for light on the great subject of ktir. I knew an olcl countessin Paris-or who was at least fearfully grow ing old-who became really a monomaniac on this subject; she uscc.lto rattle on abont the "bulb ~ of the hair," the " apex of the hair," and talk as lcc.rnodly a:-i a whole college of doctors of the Yarious theoric:-,of the nature of the disease and the rcmecly. Some quack hall recommended her to use caustic alkalies of soda, or potnJ1-whi<.:hby the way I have known to be advi ·ec.1 by phy::;icinnswho ought to know bett er- which completely dill the business for her heal1, for, they not onlydestroyed the reproduclivc power, bet n.l.:;othe color of what hair they left upon her head. r,o tit at thi"i unhappy countess was not only hopelessly grey, but she was o0·1·0\"1·110• ' ·"l<l, • d· • 1• J , ·1 · '' o u..~ I.!1 •': uy cay, no~,.,1t 1stantlm -,. 0 f-o �1JO TIIE ARI'S OF DEAUTY. if t)1is c:q eriment produces an,· s,·m .t ,. l 1 . ., J P oms 01 head ac c, 1t betlcl' be discontiuued at oucc. · But a.n Ca$y auc.lnatural way of ,rar<lino· o"" ..· ·" f . b u \\ 11nkle~ l::i l'Cqucnt al.Jlut1011, followcu by·i)rolono•cd f·· t· .~ • ~ l IC 1011W1th a clry n_~pkrn. If a _fa<lyis a liLtlc adrauccd toll'ards the pcuod when IITlllldcs arc naturnlly expectedto make then· appearance, she should use tepid water rnstcau of cold, in her aLlutions. t h[lt IIINTS TOGENTLE:\IE~ T II E A R 'I' 0 F :b"'"'i.S O I .l 1i. r_i~ I X G . TO RE:,\!OVE STAIJ\'S OR SPOTS FRO~I SILK, IF a lady Irns the rni~fortnnc to stain a s:lk dress,the following preparation will remove the stain without injnrin g the silk. Tak e five ounces of soft water and six ounces of alum ,, cH poundccl ; boi I the mixture for a short time, then pour it ill n, ,·cssel to cool. Previous to using it, it must be macle warm, ,rh cn the stn.incd part maybe wa~hccl with it and left to dry . TO RJ!::\fOYE CRE.!.:=m FRmr !=:ILKS . "\Vash the sf ilcd part with ether, and the greasewill 11isappcar . I the grat itude of the whole mascu. O'Clll1Cl' tl 1e~c hnc " rules of the ART OF F.\::;c1x ATIXG . It u~~d to be supposed that this art lJclougccl cx~lusively to my sex ; but that was n. ,ul gn_rerror, which the ~harp pr,lctiec of the mcm has long smcc exploded . And it i;-;now well e tablishctl that gcutlcmcn spc!1d a great llca.l more time in inventing ways aud mc-1ns to entrap women a11d get them in lo\'e with them, than wo111eudo i!l trying to win the hct~rl::; uf gentlemen. Love niaking, indeed seems to be the '· h~i1ir-';-; end u1H.lu.:t1:, or man. lie appears to thiuk 0 lhaL he was horn for no other purpose, aod he c1c,otcs himself Lo the busi11cst:i witli a zeal mill au c11th11 siasm highly houorablc to hi:; exalted geniu-;, a.ud to the immortn,lstatio n he claim~ for him:;0lf of b0iug lh0 lord of reation. EXPECT to will 1 - • u) 'l'o L~coU10a, profieicut iu the art of fasciun ting, 101 �102 103 HJXT "' T 0 :::> GEXTLE111EN therefore, h not merel . b t 't . y an accompltslwi ent , d . u 1 is a du,ty which h an a pasti'm(. l . c .nay not n o-1 ncurrrng the ,::-i oTave st ccnsm.c . . o··,:ma 1·· dct>ect without 11 upon the study of this g1cat .. t and i\ll1 • , In entcl'io()' o start corr ectly , 110 must take it fmpo1 tant art t0 , , women ar c not ouly , cry , . Ol grunted that poor Jud" esof t h ey ubsolut ely prefer fops f 1 o I~cn, but that f ' oo s, au<l tnflers t o souse and ch::ua ctc1·· · l f 11owever th , ' o men douLLs on thi s subicc;t lie' b"d ,, t ' e student has I J u, 0e ter refer t . car nccl au thori tics which will not f· . o ~ertam mind in the riglit premisc8 ~,r l· ail_to establish his Laye . . "· m.ac '"oni to says "women a pr edtlcct10n for frivolous men " 0 most learned of the Briti sh Essa)'ists s~,·s ,:1e hof the 8, f •11 I J , w en we ·at ive' f u11of rns1 . .p1d . life . and l ce a c °'" oud and tall... augh ter, we may venture to pronounce him a~ ' I "· ·t " "\f , 1ema e w.v.on c. .o r. Burke tell s you tha.t "the character wlucll generally passes for agreeable with the womenis nrn~e up of civilit.y ~nd falsehood." And if poets we1e of any authonty m thi s high ar t, I mio·!Jt referto 0 Dryden, who sino·s0 l "O ur thou g h tless se.x is ca ught by outward form And empty noi se-v .nd loves itself in rnan." If these learned authoriti es fail to satisfy the mindof my pupil s I shall beg to refer th em to the works of Sir "\Valter Raleigh aud Lord Chesterfield, who arc very <;opious on thi s subject . But as they progress in the exp erimenta l part of the art, th ey will learn to rely less on au thoriti es, and tru st more to their own experience ancl skill. Ind eed I have seldom met with a man who did not consider himself, in his way, such n. 0 ~ THE ART OF :FASCI~ATI~ G. t ·t y be wast inoroficicntin this sublime ar t t h a l ma .. " o ~iroe to dw<11at all upon tbe subject of aU,tkoritws. RULE THE FIRST· Set it down, then, th at the women prefer triflers to men of sense, and \Ybeu you wish to make one of the sex tremendouslv in love with you, you will of course make yourself ; s big a fool ns possi ble, in order t o ensure the most speedy and triumph ant success. Yon will do this not only because women prefer such charac ters, but you will also consider th at so little do the most sensible and fascinating women kno w of the ir own power, that , Nero-like, th ey will only sto p to catc h flies and gnat s. Your hope of complet e success then, Les in yonr alJility to be a coxcomb, who bn,s no earthly recommendatio n but his face, his coat, aud his impudence. 'l'o acqu ir e pleasing and fascinat ing man ner s yon will tlo \\·ell to spend about half of your time between ihe curli ngirons and the looking-glass, so as to become th e parago n described by 1Ir. Tennyson. " Oiled and cmled like au Assyr ian bu ll, Smellin g of musk an d inso lence .,: RCLE THE SECOXD. You ~vill 111 ;.1.kean immense hit ,vith t he ladies by prctcndrng to be no n.<lmire r of any part icular woman, bn_ t a pro.fesseL 1 adorer anc1 slaYe of t he whole sex ; a tlnng wl11c! 1 yon can easily show by staring insult ingly at nvery pretty won:an yon meet. This will also be �10-i HI~TS TO GEXTLE1fEN following the analo o·y of 11 t . d th . o a u1c, as we know tl t fl an o er disgusting insects molest th . ia eas tendere st skins and fairest co 1 . ose "ho have the mp e:xtons J·ust human flesh-flies haunt th f . ' as the 'Th e a1rer part of , , . en , as you arc not a t. l creation. lover th l a· . p ar ,ZCU ar, but only a crener al ' e n. ics will reo·ard it as a t· b _b O re · tl f sa e nsrncssto ce1ve rn ract ional part of your heart I . I . belon <r to th · . w He 1 m!O'ht o . . cm, Just as a popular notion prevails t homeopathic doses of medicine arc lzarmless to sa tla 1 least . ' Y c th RliLE THE TTIIRD. You have no h'o·l , . . will . do . well to boast that you , lb lCl .\111b 1L10n 1n life than merely to render yourself aureeable to the ladies. 'rhi s \vill at once impress them wfth profound respect for the magnitude of your arubition,au<l the majesty of your genius. Every woman will be crazy to marry a man of such splendid prospects ; and the whole sex will be most happy to avail themselves of the serv ices of so aimn.blc antl useful a gentleman. But let me caution you not to give the slightest heedto those cast -iron, sneering kind of men who out of jealousy, will say th at you were framed by nature to be a woman's fool, and who will further seek to anuoy you hy saying that the ladies change th cil' lackey-lovers as often as t hey do their bonnets, because they soou get tired of them. RULE THE FOURTH. I f you can affect effeminacy and a lisping softoe~:;iu your speech it \Yill go a grc:it way towar<}Swinning the confidence aacl esteem of a scnsiiJle and Iorcly Let Your conrersn.tiou m rcr rise out of 1he J • 1 . 'l'he . l f i-,,lls l)arties fc.1. sh1ons aud t 1c opc1a . ' i: ' . t le1it:. o ·11u..., be not on ly a, pl cas in r,· !Jut n,n :.1.ppropriac operaw1, . ;:, . , 1, 1·,, . I' , ' rs it \\'ill assOCltLLC \'OU 1(1 tile tU ,; ;_., tncmc ior ) on, a ., ' . . . mind with the charmiug sul>jcct of nw,s1,r, , r cmtndlllg 1 her tlw.t qua,cr~ and un1ue,rni:1g words arc :Jl\\"a} 8 \\ 01n::ln . I softer than its moro mrtnly parts. RULE 'l'JlF, FIFTH. By all means wear j ewelry ; if yon have it not of your own, borrow it, or get it some other ,Yay, for you must be sure that you go not into the pr esence of a.ny woman,"·hose good opinion is \\·orth hasin g, \Yithout being loaded with jewelry . An imrncn:;c brc<1,s t-pin, either of diamonds or paste, with two rings on each band and n, heavy fob chain, h\'elvc inches long will be snfficicut to prorc that you are a ma.n of snlJstantia l gooc1sense, and that you arc the posscs:-,or of a heart which is worthy of the confidence and admiration of any woman. RU,F. THE Sl:S.TU. Remember that faiut heart never won fair lady yet, and that, U1ercforc, you mu ·t push your suit with the determination an,1 ,ch cmcncc of an arrnv of soldiers -tanning n. fort . \Vomeu 1iko men of c;nrno·e there 0 fore you should entertain the lady you would with H nn.rra.tic n of Lhcnumber of men you ha vo knocked t:~wn, at bulb um1 bar-roo11ts, who had the temerity to ~,oss your patl~ Be sure th,tt you always ma..keyour~ :selfth~ hcrp of some sc:·ape, for, notwithstu.m1ing the 5* win �106 107 O)l' THE ART OF FASCI:\f.ATI~G. HI NTS TO GEN-'LF.1.fE~ ladies will readily know th n,t you are tcllin()'r rime, yet you show ihat you 1 , o l, s all the and that yon r eally r)ossess "11t1havea t.aste for fightinorr · ,~ e att nb t ,. b ut the more brutal part of 1·t - couran-eu cs or n, hero 1 ' RliLE 0 . THE SEYEXTB. Remember that we do not like men fo.1 th . ma c1· · · e ment we y . rscover m them, so much as for that the c ~nd 111 us; thc_refore be sure that no man out-faw1~ in ) L the attentions . . paiu to the wornan of your choice ·kecl a c" ter tbat. Iet your compliments be of so m"1 u, • Lrnrac t rnre can be _no mistaking them . l1'or instance you may ask her if she is alwnys pa rti cular to shn't h . eyes ~n ret iring to bed? She will ask why? A:~ yo~ will answer, B ecaU,s e if yo1&do not, I fear tliatthe briglt;ncss of 7101&reyes wi~l bi_&rn liolesin the blanket, or set t,te lw11,scaflte ! This kmd of compliment is of th e most delica te nn.tnre , and will be certa in to impress the lady , especially if she is a person of sense, with the sincer ity and pu ri ty of your intent ions. r:: RULE 1'IIE EIGHTH. You cannot be too attentive to your dress. You shoulcl never app r oach a la dy except when dresscrl so as to look pre cisely as though a tailor had made you not more than fifteen minutes before. Be careful that your figu re is consulted in tLe color and fit of youl' garmcuts . I f you arc tall and lank, wear nothing but Llack, that you may " appear like a stick of IJ!ackscaling-wax ," \Yhich will impress the ladies with an idea of the adhesive quality of your nature. If you a;e sh~r: and dumpy, and "bette r m.a<le for rolling t 1an 01. l handsome in light . .ll • ,, you will look part1cu1ar Y 0 1unn1 01 r. or grev clothes, which will greatly enhance your /t If '-'Ourleo·s are sm:11land crooked, clo no O rotunc11y. J l fail to have your pants cut to fit a little tighter t wn your skin, as this will show to great advantage tl'.c delicacy of your proportions, while, n.t _the same tnnc , _it will familiariie a la.dy'8 eye to tho sight of those c1lsgnsting spiders, which, otherwi o, might ~ause grc~t mischief by sudden frights. 1f you arc wise, you will not fail to impress upon a lady's mind the ic1ea that you n.rea great deal more particub .r about your clothes than your mind, for your mind, being al ways out of t>ight, can ncrnr offend her taste, w hercas your clothes are con- ,,11: stantly before her eyes. RULE 'IHE NINTH . On being introdnccd to a lady you will immediately inform her that you consider that the prop er studr of mankind is womanI and that Por)c was therefore wrono· ~ when he asserted it to be man. Y on will proceed to say that you have m:1dc the sex your study so ]on6 that yon find it impossible to withdraw your mind from n. constant inspection of everything a lncly sn,ys and l1oes. This she will r eceive as a great comp1iment paid to her sex, whlle it will be pa.r ticnhrly pleasing to her lo know I hn.t she has snch n, C(Hnpctcnt and vigil~.nt spy npon nll her nctions. �108 ON raE HINTS TO ART OF FASO:NATING. 109 a E~trLE;\fE:f RULE THE TWELFTH. RULE THE TE~TH. If you arc invited to dine, go at least an hour, or au hour and a half before the time, for then the lady "ill be sure never to fo rget yon, as the attent ive and polite gentleman who allowed het· neiLher time to dross nor . ' to t o supermtend her dinner. Or, if it is not convenient go so long beforehand, you had best not go till twenty minutes, or half an hour after the time, and so keep the dinner waiting, for this will get the lady in the habit of th inking of you when you arc absent, which is a great point gained in the progress of love. But, under no circumstances mnst you anive at the place about five or ten minutes before the dinner hour, for should you do so, the lady will be reminded of the vulgar showman, who cries -" Bo in time, be in time-just to beo·in-bc in time." g oino0 0 " 11 upon a lady be sure that yon say Wh en you ca ' · bl . ·t and make some local hit applwa e "orocthmo-sma1 ' h 1 :, h lfo For· instance if you perceive thats e 1as a to erse . ' h t ay that vou arc sorry to bear t a ' as S wuuli you cu.n J br o: f~ar it mr.y lead to a coffin. Some such su ime ~ th · ·n be sure to obta in you a favorable Joke as 18 wr 1 bl . ,_•on Or vou can entertain her, to a remars<a "':e lC CCp lil • J f . d degree, by relating the number ~f ~our female ncn s who have died of consumption w1thm a yoar, and you <'an wind up by quoting the following words of :Moore ; " I never had a dear gazelle To bCT lad me with its mild blue eye, But when it came to know me well And love me, it was sure to die." This will make her part icular ly anxious to be con• sidored one of your " female friends." R uLE THF. ELEVEXTII. :Much depends on your conduct at tho table ; for ]; 1dics arc yery observant of all such little affairs. T0 o·ivo one a good idea of your gentility, take your nap· and tic it round your neck as a "bib," turn up y~ur 11 to , withont pnyino· nttcntwn coat sl ccvcs, an d f "..... . o any . to the lady who sits next you, for laGheslike not to bt' disturbed at mcaJs. To show that ~ou relish your fo,~~~~ let your mastica,tion be quite a ud11Jle , and wl:cn ~ -d .· 1, to a lad)' say ,: here's luck," smack your lips,_au d 1111 .._ , , • • ·altc<lidea er "ha !'' Nothing gtves a lady a more ex . o/ a mn,n tlrnn to see that lie is fond of good eat111.:, kin (l' .an<l <lrinkiHg. RULE THE THIRTEENTH. If you invite a lady to go to the theatre , neglect not to loa,o.her, and go out to drink with your male friend s between each act, as this wil1 show her that you have oonfidencethat she can protect Lerself ; and if yon cau foll asleep during tho play, it will be a great thing for you. as it will show that you are too much interested in her t o take any interest in tho play ; and , besides, sho has the sweet privilege of imagining that you are dreaming of her. N othiug ::;ofascinates a womau as· to kn.owthat a gentleman dre ams about her. Hence you �110 HINTS TO GEN'rLEMEN will do well to always pretend that vou dre d . J amc of ht:r1 w l1eth or you did or not. No matter 1·r sh d v . . . · e un erstauds ,/our falsehood, as she will be quite sure to do for still she cannot help being flattered that you th·mk' so much of her that you will tell her falsehoods to please her RULE THE FO URTEENTH. It will be greatly to your advantage to entertain the lady you would win with an account of the number of women who are in love with you, and of the decided u.dv.ances which they have made to you; for this will not only prove that you are a great favorite with the ladie s, and a man of true honor, but it will convince her that she may have the honor of being enrolled in the same list, and of being praised in the same way,in the presence of your other female friends. This will greatly delight her, and you need uot be surprised if she testifies her admiration of your clrnracter by throwing her arms around your neck on the spot. And if afterward s you should hear of her having said that you ought to be /ia,nged,you will, of course, understand tha,t she wants to use her own lovely arms for the iialter. RULE THE FIFTEE~TII. One of the most direct and sure ways to fascinatea lady is to excite in her heart a spirit of rivalry, through · tl 11 ·s 1·s t o get the jealou' sy. A common way of doing . dagu erreotype s of your father's cookand cJv.1,rn bennaid, and take them to your lady-love, and tell her tlt1.t thcy are the likenesses of two very ::-ichand highly respect- n.,, ON TIIE Ar,~ OJ!' FA SCIN ATING. 111 f . a lono· time persecuted you able ladies who _hav e od1 t las~ have had the indeli4 • th · • affections an a · . . • wit1l cu .._, '.. ·1cturcs without any sollc1tat10n t send you i,nca p ' . cacy o h . 'l1his story will reac11ly be our part w atcve1 . . . on. Y . body knows that nck and respedable believed as every . d .t . '. in t he habit of doiug ju ~t such thmgs, an 1 lachesai e , . a priz e will certainly convince a.nylady t 11at you a1e . especially as she foresees that she would worth h n.vrng, '• 1 buve the plea sur e of having her homo filled with a c_a:inct of strange women's faces, which she could exhibit as the proud savage docs the scalps her husband h as taken from the heads of his enemies . RULE TIIE SIXTEENTII. If a lady you admire happens to make tho acquaintance of some gentleman of superior attainment s and position to yourself, make yourself as boorish to him a8 possible, whenever you meet him in her company, for thi s will be sure to increase her admiration of yo'll,,and cause her to despise liim. Aud then, the moment he leaves, you will be able to demolish him entirely by assailing his character-mak ing him out a ra scal, a. rouc a.ud a libertine, of the very blackest dye ; and. fail not to believe t hat the blacker you paint him, the whiter you will look yourself. This course canno t fa,il to bring her to her sense , and convince her what a fool she has made of herself by taking such a ruffian and scoundrel for a gentleman. And th en she will admire you beyond description as the discovererof his villainy, especiallyas she will clearly perceive th e motives you �112 ~,N HIN TS TO GEN'I'LEMEN ha d for B . the exercise of such an extraord' . y this course you will open t h . . ma1y sagacity, · o er mmd a · t am commendable t raits of h vein of cer, • c aracter pos d . emment degree by vours:ilf d t . sessc in an • J ., , an o which h • oth , erwise have forever reuai·n d ' e a stranger . . RULE THE SEVENTEETH s e might . THE .ART OF FAS( INATING. 113 • -r. lle d for ass :s ane that the masculine for.fool is. J o ' an d that et' .means' and that therefore article a, is un, an ' . . iin f olleet wn ane means a, f oot a,nd an a,ss. If t~1e1 e rs no one by to correct your bad Fr ench you w1l~ get it for beino-a o·reat scholar, while the lady will be Cred o o . f profoundlyimpressed with the beauty _and propriety o your first lesson in French , and she wtll. be sure never to forget you as long as she remembers it. If you have not learning by all means it, for this will give a l~dv and all bprctef1~~ to have o t . J ' er uends an ppor umty of laughino· at you' wh1'cl1 ,,,n·11make you ' a o most .agreeable and amusing fellow in her estimation But, ~f, on the oth er hand, you realiy possess somelittl~ learnmg, do not fail to show it off on all occasions If a l~dy ~oes not know a word of Fr ench, you wiiI, of course, inter sperse your conversation plentifully with words from that language. you may ask her if she has ever read "Les Eg armnents du, C(ffll,r?" She will stare at you to sec if you are mad, and you will have the pleasure of relieving her alarm by telling her it is the name of a French book, the English of which is '' The "\Vantlerings of the Heart," and which you be• lieve has never been tran slated into our language. She will think you really a charming man for having relieved the distressing anxiety which you had created. Now you can not only talk in English on the delightfulsubject of hearts, but, having· given her a taste of French, you can proceed to give her a useful and pleasing lesson in that language. You may tell her that you learned it very easily, that the words are ,, ,ry simple, and you can rrove yourself by inf n·millg her ~hat the French word RULE THE EIGilTEENTII. It will be a masterly stroke of policy for you to pre• tend to be an atheist, and to scofI at every idea of reli• gion ; for, if you have no respect for your :Maker, nor for anything that mankind holds sacred, it will satisfy any intelligent and reflecting lady that you will hav e all the more respect and love to bestow upon her. RULE TUE NI~ETEE~Tll. You ought to know that there are four thino-s which 0 always possess more or less interest to a lady-- a par· rot, a peacock, a monkey, and a man ; and the neare r you can come to uniting all these about equn.~Jyin you1 own character, the more will you be lo,ed . This is also a cheap ~nd ~xcellcnt reci~)efor making a dandya creature..,vhtch 1s always an c bject of u.dmirn.tion and esteem to the ladies. RULE THE TWE~TIETJ-I. As lteel,sare of more importance to men than h d willof .,, c ea s, you com;:ic,spend all of your earli'cr·d ays m . 1.earn• �114 ON THE ART OF FASCINATING . HINTS TO GENTLEMEN ing to dance, and when you are pe1fected in the you cannot do better than spend th . ar~ t· • e rest of you 1me in dancing. Fail not to convince a lady th t r ·t · · a your rea l exis ence is in the Lall-room and that d . . , . . ' urmg all the inter. venmg time vour godlike facu1t·1es are simpl . ., takmg their. natura l sleep. you must not dance as Y a mere pastime and as an occasional amusement, bll t yo~ _must d evote yourself to it as a business and a rehg10n For which you wish to live or dare to die. Dance with all the might of your body, and all the fire of your soul, in order that you may shake all melancholy out of your liver ; and you need not restrain yourself with the apprehension that any lady will have the least fear that the violence of your movements will ever shake anything out of your brains. RULE TIIE TWE"N'TY·F IRST. Nothing so readily fascinates a lady as wit; but a.s this is a very rare thing, and only one in ten thousand re ally possess it, the best you can do is, affect itthat is, you can try to be witty, and even if you should fail, the lady' s laugh ter will testify bow much she is delighted at your effort. Puns are always delightful, and you must not forget that those only are good which are decidedly bad, a fact which is all in your favor. Should you hear a lady tell her servant to b1·ingup the dinner, a delicate piece of wit wouldbe to affect great astonishment, and exclaim, "bring 7"P tlu dinner! pray tell me, madam, hes yorr servant swallowed- 115 . . ?" Or you can make a misstep, and the dmner • ·l • n our head against hers, if you dar e n s c your ow a collision and say, "B eg pardon, b~t you knowtwo heads are better than one;'' and even. rf you b ld happen to break a shell side-comb, and g1vc her 0 s d h ~ • a day she will forgive it becau se of the a 11ea ac e 1'01 · , • • manliness and delicacy of your wtt. Or you might contri,e to kick her leg with the toe of your Loot, until she cries out with pain, which will give you a chance to defend yourself by declaring that she has "no rio-bt to complain, as it was perfectly leg-a1." Only h . • treat a lady with such refined and cha,rmmg wit as this, and she will be sure to betray the tenderest regard for you, by affectionately wishing you were in ~:ros~i ° "Abraham's bosom. RULl~ THE 'fWE~TY -SECOND. Should you invite a la dy out to supper, you must, by all means, order three times as much of expensive di bes as it will be possible for you to cat, as this will sho,r her that you have a generous disr ega rd of money, and would just as soou waste it, as spend it econo• mic:11ly,which will convince her that your wife will never want for money, i. e. if you hn.ve any yourself. If it is not convenient to be so expensive, take the other extreme, and be as mean as possible. Condemn all dishes, that cost over fifteen cents, as being out of season or as unhealthy ; and all wines you are to denounceas vile drugs, which you will neither drink your• self nn offer tr t :-:>~c whorn y0~1 respect. Th en order �116 HINTS TO GE~TL2MF!N ale for two, which, as she will probably not drink f •t you will hav.e all to yourself ; and, as you putt~~ gla ss t o your lips blow off the froth, or head and "l1u:,1e A.,s ymtJ"-a comp1·1ment she cannot fail' to appresay ciate and admire. RULE THE TWENTY-THIRD. Wh enever you call on a lady, speak of having "just come from the club," and dwell with pride upon the amount of tirne you speiul there, because all ladies have great faith in the happy influence of such places as " clubs" upon a young man, in not only teaching him the polite accomplishments of cliewing and drinking, and a great m:1nycoarser habit s, but they get him into the pleasant way of la te hours, and of spendingall his leisure time away from home. There is no sensible lady who will not jump at the chance of marrying oneof these dub-men , for she knows that she will be relieved of his company nearly all tho time, and that she will, furth ermore, have the groat pleasure of sitting up to welcome him home at the poetical hour of midnight. W hat a charming prospect for domestic happiness I ON THE ART OF FASCINATING. 11, blushing way through the mud. Tllis is a h 1 1· and a proof of your rnodestan d liment to t e ac ies, . . . admiration of th e beautiful, which every r~spct - duly appreciate. And, ty simp Y t blc woman w111 . lcl a . . on tho oTatitucle with which you wou see reflcctrngup o . . . . ·f the same delicate attentions paid to your O\\ n :vi c_or daughtcr, you Ca n more fully realize the fascmatmg • • . er its p1ck100 :Jed excellenceof your character. RULE THE TWE::{TY-FIFTH. Of course you will never allow yourself to sit five minutes by the side of a lady without paying h~r some respectful and delicate attention, such as takrng her handkerchief,and spreadi ng it out on your lap, or lean• ing affectionately upou her, or throwing your arm over the back of her chair, which will look to spectators as though it were round her neck ; or, if she wears a lownecked dress, you can stand bonding over her chair, lookingdown and praising the ring upon her finger, or the delicate whiteness of her hand . 'l'his will convince a lady that you have not only an inquiring mind, but that you also possess the natural instinct of a well-~red and wann-lte:.irted gentleman. RULE THE TWENTY-FOURTH. You must do everything in your power to convincea bdy that you are , in a modest way, a great aclmircrof bnauty . an excellent way to prove which is, to be v , h t t are alway s seen, on rainy days, when t e s \~cs s dtl standino· at th e corners, where most.ln.c.icspas , mu y, o d t . bcautv staring at the embarras sments of pc e~ nan JI RvLE THE TWEXTY-SIXTH. What is cn,llcd gassing is a groat card for a gentle • man to play, especially ,vith an accomplished and discriminating lady. vVhcnever he meets her, he must pretend tha.t he has just come from a lono· and iutcrest• . 0 mg conversa.tir·r. v·ith Colc12e l this-one, and General tha t- �118 HINTS TO GENTLEl iE N one, or has just dined with Honorable , · t .;. \._1 s er or Governor so-and-so, and then speak of the oTeat diffi' I . . . o cuty he hac1 m tear m00 • hunself away from them Th' • _ • • 1S will s~ow her that he 1s conscious of possessing no meritof hts Ovvn, to recommend him to her favor; whichshe will tak e as a pleasant and convincing proof of his modest and ~urnili~y, and_which she will also charitn.bly pas~ to l11scredit, agamst th e lies which she well knowshe is telling her. RULE THE TWE~TY - SEVENTH. Always make yourself comfortable in the presenceof a lady ; which you may do, by sitting on tLe outer edge of your chair , and allowing your shoulders and bodyto fall backwards , while your legs are projecting forward into the middle of the room, and thrown apart like the diverg ent prongs of an immense pitch-fork. 'l'his is an elegant and tempting position. Then, in cold weather, you can sit down in her presence in your full winter rig, of over-coat, over-shoes, th ick gloves and fur-cap, which will give you an air of great comfort , while it will, at the same time, be rcgurdcd as a sigu of the most delicate reRpect for her presence. Or, you ca_n accomplish the same desirabl e end, if the weather 1s hot by goioo- into her pr esence minus your suspenders and vest, witi1 noth ing on but your shirt, pantalo~ns , stock ings and pumps . She :will be sure to _apprccia:e t his delicate compliment to her presence, while s~e ca/ not fail to be str uck with the justice and propnety o puppiesachieving ::i,llthe comforts they possiblyran dur· ing dog-da;ys. ON THE .AR'f OF FASC I NATING. 119 WENTY-EIGHTH. RULE THE' T . l ·ed one of the fe.roale virtues, you ·t is consH e1 f .t As vam y b tter t h.ino . than to evince as much o 1 cannotdo a e _o t y to do th is is to never 'bl A convemcn wa . as poss1 e.. of a l ady . that 1s, be ourselfin the presence • ' forget y . d . the occasion agreen,blc to articula r to ren er · more p, t ake it one of entire bapprnc ss ourselfthan you are o m, . k yto bcr . for t l11s . wt·11 show her that yon .think too m1t c . . ' d d to the small business of entc1oifyou,rseLf to escen . . . . T· lk therefore only ot your own. taimng a woman. a , ' . , . Be constantly adJ·usting your sh1rt-colln.1' o1 afIairs. tl t arranging your cravat, which will not only sl:ow ia you are ambitious to look as handsome as po~s1ble,_but it willbe an employment for your han ds, which might otherwise prove, in some way, an u.nnoya.nce to her. RULE THE TWENTY - }HNTII. There is no way in which you can be - more serviceable and render yourself more ag reeable to a lady tl1an to bring her all the bad news you hear, especially if it relatesto herself. All the disparaging things you hear said of her, you will, of course, take to her directly ; whichwill cause her always to hail your coming with joy, while it proves, beyond a doubt, that you have beenwell-bred, and are a high-toned gentleman. RULE THE TillRTIETII. If you suspect a lady to possess a considerab le am0unt of strong gol)d sense, and if you know he r to �120 HINTS \'O GENT.LEMEN have had some experience in the world th a t you can easily · wm • her confid ' you fJJ.ay bel'ieve . encc and rcspe t b assuming an extraordinary amount of iet .. c ' y respectability ; which she well knows by, vntue, and of I 11 e an oldtrick near• y a. young scape-o-races who h:we nothmo• . but 0 , 0 pretens.ion 1n the oo-reat claims th ey makye to moralit Tl be easily shocked-be m . constant alarm y. I 1crefore t es youd should compromise yourself- put on pious . . airs ; an the lady will give you credit for obey· 0 th bl' . . . 100' e su 1mernJunct1on of the poet, who s0,ys·: · f° "A ssitme a vn· . t ue-1 'f you have it not ." RULE THE TITIRT Y-FIRST. Always have some joke ready which is intendedtc be a hit at woman. For instance, if you see a lady eating a piece of tongue, you can remark that youare surprised to see her doing that, as you thought the ladi es bad already tongue enough. Some such original j oke as this will impress a lady greatly in your favor, by convincing her that you are one of those commonplace, insipid creature s, whose intellect is down to the low level of woman's, a.nd that you will not, ther efore; be likely ever to startle and annoybe:·,by propo sitions or conver.sations beyond the reach of \ler compreh ension. RULE THE THIRTY-SECOND. You will do well to follow the e~ample of a great many gentlemen, and practi se killing ways before the looking-glass, which will be quite sure to give yon ON THE .ART OF FASCI N, i.TING. 121 a style as charming and fascinating as _the n.ianncrs o: a, monkey,while it will flatter the vamty ')f any sensible woman to see what pains you take to r ender yourselfso honorably agreeable to her sex. RULE THE TBIRTY-TIIIRD. Alwaystalk a little doubtingly of female virtue, for that will show that you arc rigidly virtuous your self, and that you associate chiefly with a class of women ,vhocannot fail to be of great advantage to you in giving you proper, and sufficiently cautionary, ideas of the character of the sex. RULE THE TITIRTY-FOURTH . Pretend that you are perfectly invulnerable to all the charmsof woman, which will convince her that you are the most vulnerable and susceptible creature alive, and that you are aiways making love to every pretty · womanyou see, married or single. This will show that your heart is as tender as though it ·were rotten, and that you would, therefore, make a most excellent and desirablehusl>and. RULE THE THIRTY-FIFTH. Also, talk perpetually of your great cau tion as to what women you associate · · ,nth. The louder your prof~ssions in this matter, the more yon will convince a sensiblelady that you would make lcvc even to your ~~her-woman, without regard to color, and that ,our " 11e' therefore' may • J r easonably expect to be relieved G • �122 HINTS TO GENTLEMEN of a great deal of the persecution of a husband's affections. RULE THE THIRTY-SIXTH . Alway s complain that your lady acquaintances are .,oo numerous, and absorb too much of your time , l · h 1 V llC ·1 · w1l convmce a discerning woman that you have not . I a smg e respectable female acquaintauce except herself, and that she, the refore, bas you nll to herself, including all your pretensions and lies. + RULE TIIE TilIRTY - SEVENTH. If th ere is a beautiful marri ed lady in your neighborhood, you will, of course, try to flirt with her; and, as a preparatory step, you will cultivate the confidence and friendship of her husband, ,vhieh is a most direct road to the affections of the wife ; for it will thoroughly apprise her of your designs, and then nothing will delight her more than to witness your efforts to impose upon her husbrtnd. If she is really worth flirting with, your success will be certain, and you will have the pleasure of being laughed at by those adroit rascals who always avoid the friendship and even the acquaintance of a man, with whose wife they desire to flirt. RULE THE THIRTY-EIGHTH. It is ~ masterly stroke of policy of some young men t o be always ra iling at matrimony-an cx~mple I advise you, by all means, to copy, for it will give you an opportuni:J of com ting r1cry pretty woman who ON THE ART OF FASCI~.A.TI~G. 12h r'1thoutbcino-suspected ::>fany but 0 · vour wny \\ • A coro ·es rn ., n l' ',1.ndhonorabl e intent1011s . 1:1an th~ mrJst P.nscl 1s~ and who avows his determma· d , ·scs matnmooy, th who c::sp1 h s also a carte bla,1ulie to c . ver to marry, a. ' tl t tion nc . 1 d , . for the pn.rents know 1a of every youno a j ' 1 . l10mc .,I t l ill ever stea l away t 1e1r J, ·e is no danger t rn ie w . . b . ot ,er tly in marria<re bis ohJeCt cmo dauo-hterpermancn o ' 001 ; a temporary courtship. RULE THE TIIIRTY-NI::-l'TJI. Thcr,e is an insipid tribe of triflers, callc~ " danglers," 'th 1 whom women arc very fond of diver ting themselves : mockflirtations, when they have nothing better to do. They regard them as a class of beings b ene~th their monkeys, parrots, and lap-clogs ; but, posscssrng the form, and, iu some degree, the attributes of a man, they use them for pastime, and to practi se tbem selv:s in the pleasant art of flirting. It will cost you but little pains to become one of these useful and happy beings. RULE TIIE FORTIETH . If you have made up your mind to str ike a. woman quite deadin lo1.:e with you, fix your eyes amorou ly upon hers, and gaze fixedly and burningly into them, as though yon were mesmerizing her. If you perceive that it is with uifficulty she keeps from laughing in your face, or, if she turns away her face in scorn, as though she felt insulted, you must, by no means, rPlax your gaze, for these are dear signs th nit you arc �124 lllXTS TO GE~TLEMEN havin~ yo1r _effect. upon _her. And if she sends for her fathe1, or b .othe 1, to kick you out of the ho . becau se she dare not I use, you may k now tlrn..t it. 1s . . your fa,scmatrng . . presence. onger trast he1self m • RULE TIIE FORTY-FlRST. What is called attitU,dini:::ing is a great game to play upot1 an intelligent and sensible woman-t hat is to throw your body iuto a series of graceful pictures '. 01 fas cina ting attitud es, which you must study bcfor~ a mirror ; a.nJ, as a lady will readily detect your skill and pra ct ice, she ,.·ill at once bite at so temptinga, bait, and set herself to win yom· heart, as sincerely as a spider spins a fine web to catch a fly, for she knows that all such insects are easily caught, and easily bled. ON TITS .ART OF F.ASCiXATIXG 125 rdasher. This will soon de the busidoor-wayof a babe possible grounds to doubt s for you, and leave no . ne.'3 s. as to your rcaI position in her affect1011 RULE THE FORTY-FOURTH. If a lady condescends to tr eat you with a little. familiarit ·ou must instantly ta.kc advanta ge of it, _and ' y,yonrse ) lf as familiar and as a 0o-reea ble as possible, make ~ • • , • . 1l you IDu, "Y do by some such trick as st1ckmg wh1c · h yom fi scgaralmost into her eyes, to light it, or_ta kmg ~r hn.er to brush the ashes from tho end of it ; ancl if s c ;houldask you why you do not use your own fi~fc r, you can reply by making a double nose, a~d ~ay no yo~ don,'t " which will strike her with adm1rat1on bo th for your wit and familiar good breeding. RULE TIIE FORTY-SECON'D. If you perceive that a lady is decidedly averseto receivin g you, and actually flies from your presence, you should perpetually throw yourself under her nose, on the same principle that a horse is made to smellof a wheel-barrow to keep him from taking fright at suJh an ugly machine. RULE THE FORTY-THIRD. Or if a lady begins Lo show evident signs of weari• ness ~t your frequent calls, by all means doul>lcyour attention s-ca ll oftener, ancl stay longer, uuW yo~ mnko you--3elf a fixLure in her pre sence, like a dummy10 thc RULE TIIE FORTY-FIFTH. Nothing makes a gentleman app ear to so grea t advantage as to be good at " small talk," that i , to be able to prattle away for hours ,vithout saying anything. If .,,on haYe not this fascinating gift of gab yourself, you will do well to take along some such help as II ar~ per's monthly picture-book, so that yon can amuse the lady by studying the j okes to frntl ont wher e the laugh~ comein. If you should be unable to fiud any, you can make a. joke yourself, by pulling the lady's nose, and exclaiming " not as you nose-on ;'' and then, by laugh • iug us lotl'l as you c.rn scream, you will prov e that your own uuaitlctl wit and genius hare founu a j oke. �126 HINTS TO GENTLEMEN ON TIIE ART OF FASCI).TATIXG. RULF.: TIIE FORTY-SIXTH. . I t is a leli?h .ful and sprightly species of wit, cal!c big talk, wluch accomplished O'entlen e . d 1 11 sometime 0 • 1 1 • me.a ge rn. to entertain ladies by descriptions of mock advent ul'es, such as ritlinoan e::uthqnal·c t 0 d · 1· .._ 'o watc1· ruu:10g out of the milky-way, cutting a piece off of tbe spectre of the Brockcn for a nio•ht-cal) C"t b. . o , u, c mg a comet by the tail, or bunting for a calf's head in the cell of a moon beam. If, after you have delivered yourself of this matchless piece of sense and humor ~ho fat.ly g!·avely asks if you had any difficulLyin find~ 1~g a calf s hea_d , you may know that she fully appreciates your genius, and that you have made aa immense hit. RULE THE FORTY-SEVE~TH. I advise you to ~tudy to perform a few pleasing and charming tricks in every lady's presence, such as snatching her pocket-handkerc hief out of her lap an<l throwin g it upon the floor, antl violently stamping upon it ; aocl when she asks, with t error, what you arc.doing , reply that you arc killing a wiper. Or you ca.uopen the door on a winter's night, and then astonish and delight her by asking if there arc any piddes in it? and when she asks what you mean, reply, "n othing,only I sec it is a-ja,." A few such tricks as these will convince a lady that you wonld be as amusing in a house as a monkey, and th cnfo rc would be a great prize as a hu sband. 121 RULE: THE FORTY-EIGHTH. If on intend to call on a la dy in the evening, do to drink liquor seve ral times, and several not n:o·lect o . . . . . kindsof it, during the day, for t llls will g1ve sp:n t to yourconversation, while it will enable you to perfume her wholehouse with a fragrance which can be equalled onlyby a scent that bas now become very rar e, in conseqncnce of the scarcity of the animal that produces it. RULE TilE FORTY-~IXTH. Giggleand ln.ugh perpetually-mak e fun, even of serious things ; for that will show that your heart is as light as your head, and that grief is as great a strangel'to the one as sense to th e other. RULE THE FIFTIETH . If you have not the natural sprightlin ess and playfulness to enable you to take advanta ge of these rules, take the other tack, and be as surly as possible- that is, if you cannot Le a J uppy and frisk and bark, be an olrldog and growl. � Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. 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Title A name given to the resource Excerpt from 'The arts of beauty, or, Secrets of a lady's toilet: with hints to gentlemen on the art of fascinating' Creator An entity primarily responsible for making the resource Montez, Lola, 1818-1861 Subject The topic of the resource Beauty, Personal.; Beauty Culture.; Hygiene.; Social Desirability.; Women. Description An account of the resource Excerpt from 'The arts of beauty, or, Secrets of a lady's toilet: with hints to gentlemen on the art of fascinating' published in 1858 by Dick & Fitzgerald. This excerpt includes Chapter I: Female Beauty; Chapter XXI: How to Obtain a Good Head of Hair; and Hints to Gentlemen on the Art of Fascinating. Publisher An entity responsible for making the resource available Dick & Fitzgerald Date A point or period of time associated with an event in the lifecycle of the resource 1858 Type The nature or genre of the resource text Format The file format, physical medium, or dimensions of the resource 38 pages Identifier An unambiguous reference to the resource within a given context MontezBeautyExcerpts.pdf Source A related resource from which the described resource is derived RA778 .M75 1858 Language A language of the resource English Relation A related resource Santa Clara University, Archives & Special Collections Rights Information about rights held in and over the resource Public domain in the United States https://dh.scu.edu/exhibits/files/original/68/2396/WollstonecraftExcerptCh9.pdf 8d3ee95807df944782aef0f464f93c06 PDF Text Text .., . [ 74 ) recovered the ufe of my limbs . So ( 75 ] de. Getting up to reach the fhe afked me all about my misfor~ ttcu tunes, and fent for wife, who came brown loaf, he limped very awk .. directly , and we have lived heree\ler wardly, Mary was· j uft beginning to fince . vV e catch fifh for Madam , and laugh when fue refi:rained herfelf; I watch f<)r a frorm , hopingfome for fh'e recolletl:ed tl1at his awk wardtime or other to be as kind to a pooi nefs made him truly relpecrable, becauf e he had loft the ufe of his limbs perilhing foul as fhe has beento when he was doing good, faving n1 e. Indeed we are very happy I m1b1 · 0 11 t now have been beggingabout thelives of his fellow-creatures. The weather cleared up, and they the ftree ts, but for Madam, God returnedhome. The children conble[s her. , A tear ftrayed down _Mrs. Mafons verfedgaily with each other all the wayhome, talking of the poor failor, 'le a finile of benevolenc= c h ee k > w l11 h 1·cl andhis faithfuldog. .a d u her countenance- t e it e libhte p h hand-T heywere girls caught eac h fh • r. · nutes w en . e, all filent a iew m1 d ··1· to tur n the difcourfe, enquir~, C I-I A P. IX. w11 mg fh · thehouk: whether they had any fid mthey were TheI11co11venie11ces of immoderateIn .. , ere produce , ~)ome w d they all eat to• dulgence. quickly d r~ffed, a~ a chearful meJI, a~ther. 1 hey ha r. f'ome of his v /l.. Jack iuncr u children were allowed to and honen d did all he cou rJ th help emfeJves to fruit when .rt'~faring fongs, an fs hisgra• ·it made f ' ~ rlivcrt them and expre titude, C . r a part O their meal ; and a10 Ille alwaystook care to pick out E 2· the ► THE �[ 76 ] the bcft, or fwallow what fhe tool in a hurry, left fl1e fhould not get as n1uch as ilie wifl1ed for. Indeed fhe generally eat n1ore than her fhare, She had feveral times eaten more than a perfon ought to eat at one t'itne., \Vithout feeling any iil effects, but one afternoon fhe complained of a pain in her fro1nach in confequencc of it, and her pale face, and languid eyes, plainly !hewed her indifpofirion. Mrs. Mafon gave her an emetic, and after the operation fhe was obliacd to go to bed, thoughfr! b . 1k h ad pro1nifed herfelf a pleafantw2.: th at evening. She was left alone, for Mary was not permitted to fiay at ho1ne with her, as fhe offeredr.o do. H ad her ficknefs been.acC' dental we would both have wedD r. . i M amufe ' her 1a1( rs. M4afon.' buther .1 . ' . . a its natUf41 arcedrnefs now reccivino b . fh multendure and J·l,ft pum(hment, e . .,., · · which pi.1 it without the al1ev1auon , r. me t11a. affords ; only tell her 1rom , che [ 77 ] was but mo1nent arr,. plpafure ..., while the pain and confinement 1t produced , has already lafted fo1nc hours. The :-icxtn1orning, though fcarcely recovered, !he got up, as ufual, to havea walk before breakfaft. During thefewalks, Mrs. Ma fon told th etn ftories, pointed out the wifdotn of God in the creation, and took the1n to· vifit her poor tenants. 1'hefe vifitsnot only enabled her to fonn a judgment of their wants, but made themvery indu!l:rious; for they were allanxious that fue mibo-ht find their houfesand perfons clean. And returningthrough the farn1-yard, Mrs. .Mafonftoppecl according to cufton1., to foewhether the poor anirnals were takencare of-t his fhe called earning her_bre,,kfatt.1'he fcrv,1nt was ju~ feeding thc pigs, and thou o-h 1hc poured a o-rea c quantity . .b b ~ rnto the trouoh th., g1. l O ob '. \,. ee( Y creatures tri ed to g ble tt up fron1one another. Catihe E3 rolinc: �r 78 J rolint blu.fh ed, fhe faw this fi t r. , fi 1 1ght WallCan_ ior her, and ihe ) •1 e t atharned of 1er glutto ny. But 1\,,- M • 11· • .LVHS. i afon v,ll rng to 1mp refs her ft'll > ~l h I m~ ..1 ong Y, t us addr effed h ) . er. 1 rov1dence , my child h . ' ." ' as g1ven l ,S pa.ffions and appetites r. o.. . •· H • vanous purpofes . , l ..1 -. two are generally obv10u~, w11 point them out to you. Firft to rende r our prefen t life more com . fortabk, and then to prepare us for another> by inaking us fociaule be~ ings ; as in fociety virtue is ac. quired , and felf..d enial pracl:ifed, A n1oderate quantity of proper food r ecruits our exhaufted fpirits, and invigorates the anin1al funcl:ions; but, i( v. e exceed moderation, the mind will be opprelfed , and foon become the nave of the body , or bothgrow lifllefs and inactive. Employed VJ• rjous w.-1ys>fan1ilies meet at meals, an i there bo·ivinoup to each ocber, b learn i 1 the mo!l: cafy, plcafancway to go. ,..,·n thti r appc:tites. Pigs,you fte . .1 [ 79 ] vour what they can get; but 1,e,de fl. n · 1 e ·r thev have any a ecuon s, ov men,1 , . fl ~ I1 ir fdlow-creacures, and w1 1 or ~,l ereturn ,. nor will they, for the- fake ' of a brutiD1 gratification, loie tnc ctl:eem of thofc they v alue . Befi des, no one can be reckoned virtu ous whohas not learned to bear povert y: yet thofe who think n-rnch of gra~ifyingtheir appetites, will at laft: aB: meanly in order to indt1lge thern .. But when any employment of the underfranding . or {hong affecti on oc ... cupies the mind, eating is feldom thought a matter of gr eater impo rtance than it ough t to be. Let th e idle think of their n1eals ; but do you employ the intermed iate time in a different manner, and only enj oy them ,vhen you j oin the focial circle. I like to fee children, and eve n men! eat cLearfully, and gratefully recetve the bleOingsfent by I-leaven ; yet 1 would not have the1n abufe thofe bleffings, or ever let the care E4 neceifary �[ [ 80 ( 1~ecdf..ny to fupport the bo 1 .. .. lY, I~u~ 1e 11n1no rt:il f~p1nt: many think , the _ fr1!tenancc the former craves,a~ c~tire 1y ne glect th e latter. I hrcmarkcd to you before, that 111 t e inoft apparently trivial con. rerns, we arc to do as ,ve would be done by. 1'nis duty muft be pracl:ifed conftantly; at meals there Ph . ,tre fr~quent opportunities, andI hope, Caroline, I fha 11 never again fee you eager to frcure dainties for yourfrlf. If fuch a difpofitionwere to grow up with you, you oughtto live alone, for no one Jhould en_ioy th e ad vantages and pleafores which ar ife frocn focial intercourfe, whois unwilling to give way to the incli nations of others , and allow e:ich their iharc of the good thi:ig:iof this Jife. You experienced ydl-crday, chat pain follr" :i 1 , 1 c l · ,tt · imlulgcn.:c ; it is al way~ the c,t1\ thounh form:~ ti1ncs not frlt fo i 11111l\.u,-.l J}' i nut the 8l ] fl. ' tion is infenfib]y dcftroyeJ, rhecomutu d ·1 aoe will con1e on, loade wlt 1 and old r. l oft a ve1.y . . o y ou al10 infirrn1ues. .c. • r. alk and fon1e fine 1ru1t. plea11 nt w , ' . , We vifited Mrs. Goodwin s gar d as Mary had before con den, an . d me that fhe could regulate vmce her appetites, I gave her leave to pluckas much fruit as D_1e\vifhed; and £he<lidnot abufe 1ny indulgence . On the contrary, ihe fpent rnofr p~r t of the time in gathering fome for me, and her attention made it tafl:c fweeter. Coming home I called her my friend,and ihe deferved the nan1e, for fhe was no longer a child; a reafonableaffecl:ionhad conquered an appetite; her underfl:an<ling took the lead, and fhe had practircd a virtn c. The fubjecc was now d roppe d ; but, Caroline determined to copy in future her fifler's te1nperance and fd ftlcnial. E5 C II 1\ P . � https://dh.scu.edu/exhibits/files/original/68/2396/WollstonecraftExcerptCh13.pdf a8caed7b095676632ad08f1f7bb8c0dc PDF Text Text [ 106 [ ] to receive mercy and kindnefsonly f on t 1e· con 1t1on o your praclifingthe ·} a· . farne. I a_dvife~ou to afk Betty to pard on your impertinence; till you do fo,fhe fhall net affift you , yon wouldfind yourfelf very helplefs without the affiftance of men and women-unableto cook your meat, bake your bread, wa!h your clothes, or even put them on-fuch a helplefs creature is a child -I know what you are, you perce1ve. Mary fnbmitted-and in futureafter fhe faid her prayers, rememberedthat fhe was to endeavour to curb hertem- per. CH AP, 107 CH AP. ] XIII. Emplo)'mentJdlenejs produces MiJery-'lhe Cultivation ~f the F aricy raifes us above tbe Vulgar, extends our Happinefs, and leads to Virtue. NE afternoon, Mrs. l\1afon gave the children leave to arnufe themielves;but a kind of liftleifnefs hungover the-m, and at a lofs what to do, they feemed fatigued with doing nothing. They eat cakes though they had jufr dined, and did many foolifh thingsmerely beraufe they were idle. Theirfriend feeing that they were irrefolute,and could not fix on any ernployment,requefted Caroline to affift her to make fome clothes, that a poor woman was 111 want of, and whilewe are at work ihe added M . ' , ary will read us an entertaini ~ 1 0tale .h t::> , wh1c I willpoint out. F 6 The O �, ' "" !/~:-·:~ ,,' \ \ I I ' ' l .,•;,\·;,: , ~ ~ ~ ~' ' t '1 • • ' \' '' \' ' ' ' .. !; : : t : : , • : ' , f \ • " \ \ ~ : \' [ ,~: ·"~" t ' t : • \' l \ 108 [ ] \ ·: :,:; ; ::, . The tale interefl:ed the h' . . . ,,: . , . .. h c 1ld1en : :,.:• w o chearfully attended and c. .' : :. , t : , : • • . , a1ter it was fimi'hed) Mrs. Mafon told th . . , . . , .,,,, l fh em) • )(: :·: : ·:-.. : 1at as e had fome letters to write,ihe .... ould not take her accufl:omedwalk. out that ilie would allow them to re-' prefent her, and acl: for once likewomen. They received their commiffion ' tt was to take the clothes to the poor woman, whom they were intended for ; learn her prefent wants ; exercife their own judgment with refpeB:to the im mediate relief ihe fl:ood in needo, and alt accordingly. They returned home delighted, eager to tell what they had done, and h ow thankful, and happy theyhadleft the poor woman. Obferve now, faid Mrs . Mafon,the advantages arifing from employment; three hours ago, you were uncomfort able, without beingfenfibleof thecaufe, and knew not what to do withyourfelves. Nay, you actually committeda fin; for you devoured cakeswithoutf~el: : ; : ~::: : , : 1 1 2 10g 109 ] er merelyto kill time, w hilfE ' people have not the means manypoor offatisfyingtheir natural wants . When I defired yon to read to me you were r,ed. and now you have been ufeam011 folyouare delighted. Recollect this infuturewhen yol} are at a lofs what todowithyourfelves- and ren:1ember thatidlenefs muft alwaysb~ intolerable, becau -feit is only an irkfome confcioufnefsof exiftence. Everygift of Heaven is lent to us forour iniprovement; fancy is one of thefirfrof the inferiour ones ; in cultivatingit, we acquire what is called tafte,or a relifhfor particular em ploy ments , which occupy our leifure ~ours , and rc1:ife us above the vulgar 111our converfation . Thofe who have not.any tafl:etalk always of their own a~a~rsor of their neighbour s ; every tnvial matter that occurs within their knowledge they canvafs ~nd conjecture ~bout-not fo much out of ill-nature as. idlen efs:juil:asyou eat the cakes with-out . h inoung 0 J • �[ I IO ] [ out the impulfe of hlino-er 1 h r. t:: • nte mine fryle people talk of eat·1 ' ngand dr ef~) . a~~dlong for their mealsmerely to d1v1d(, the dav, bec:iufe rl~e· 1 inter. mediate time is not employedin rnore interefting manner. Everyne,; branch of tafte that we cultivate,affor ds us a refuge from idlenefs,a fortr efs in which we may refifi-the af. faults of vice; and the more noble o ur en1pJoyrnents, the m_oreexalted will our minds be.come. M ufic, drawing, works of ufefulnefs and fancy, all amufe and refine t he mind , {harpen the ingenuity; and form, infenfibly, the dawning judgment.-As the judgment gains ftrength, fo do the paffions al(o; we have action s to weigh, and needthat tafte in conduct , that delicate fenfeof propriety, which gives grace to virtue. The higheft branch of folitary amu~e• rnent is reading ; but even in thechoice -0fbooks the fancy is firft employe~i; for in reading, the heart is touched,t_,U 1 HS 1I I ] exan1ined by th e un. ~ lings are f r. ;ts ee . d the ripenings o rea1on derftanding, ~n • · This is the l· the 1mag111at10n. regu,lte and the moft important rk ofyears, . r .J wo ents When lire auf all emp1oym • bl o , ·r che heart has been capa e vances , 1 d h . ·no-early impreffions, an t e b . . h 0f rece1v1 headof reafoning and retaining t e 1ufiions v-.hich were dr awn fro1nf cone frock o m. we have acquired a h. the ' a gold rn1ne w • icl1 we , know1edcre O can occafionally recur to, indepen dentof outward circumt1:ances. . The fopreme Being has ever_Ythmg inhimfelf;we proceed fro1n Hnn , and our knowledoe and affections n1uft b returnto Him for emp loyment fuited to them. And thofe who moft refembleHim ought, next to I-1im, to be the objects of our love; and the beings who1n we fhould try to affociatewith, that we may receive aninferiour degree of fatisfacl:ionfrom their fociety.- But be affured our chiefcomfort muft ever arife from the �[ I J2 J [ the. 1nind's 1 C\ iev~ino. o its own rations. - and the wl111pcrs ·r. . of • ope provrng confcience to c . an ap. .r , onvinceus h 11chas not flipped awa t -: y unemployed, 1 13 ] number of poor came to great little harvdl ; and fl1e was a crac er h 0 led co fee the feeble hands of pea . r. 1 childhood and age., colklbng t 11e 1C<At- 1 teredea1s, Hone1tJack came with his fam:~!y; andwhen the labours of the day wt':eover, would p~ay on a fiddle, C 1-IA P . XI ?. thatfrequently had but three firings • .,. Butit ferved to fet the feet in n10 1.nnocent Am1ife;,1ents- Derc·•if>t · r I r f01JCJ tion , and the lads and la!fos dancing a lf/eljh Crjt!e.- lliflory of a !Veb ont~egreen fod, fuffered every care Ilarper.- /1 tyra;1ilica/Lcm,.hrd. 'tofitep. Fa,nily Pride. An old '\VeHh harpe~ generally cameto the houfe about this time it was now harveft time,the of the year, and ftaid a 1nonth or n\..w fccnc, ~ nd the fineweather r ore; for i\Irs. Mafon was particu delighted the cLilclrcn, who ran conL,l} fondof this in(b un1ent , and intinu.Jly out to view the reapers. Inter~lletlin the fate of the player; dc~d every thing fremed to weara as1salmofl:always the cafc, when we face of feHivity, ancl the ripe corn have nJcucd a pcrfon out of any beth t,ndcr its O\\ n wt ighc, or, n1ore clinrels. , erect, !hcwtcl the laughing appe2rancc She infonne<.lthe children, that of plenty . one~tr.welling through \ Vales, her Mrs. Mafon always allo,,ing t e carnagewas ovcrturn~<l near the ruifls gleaners to have a fotnch.nt <~u ..ntit}, Cl a grei.t 0 ".) AS � https://dh.scu.edu/exhibits/files/original/68/2396/WollstonecraftExcerptCh15.pdf 4a8d0645a823b22e8aea0f949a0f0dde PDF Text Text [ I 20 ] hi1n, anJ exertetl myfdf to procurethe cnlargcn1ent of the young rr.an. l fuc. c-ce<lcd; and not only refroredhimto his farnily; but prevailed on myfriend to kt hirn rent a finall farm on his dh1..t·, and I g:n e him moneytobuy f~ock for it, and the implementsofhuf . ban,Jry . 'I'hc old harper's gratitude wasun. bm.1,1dcd; the ii.:11n1c:r after he walked • ) \ itit n1e ; a!1d eve1 fince he hascontrive d to co1ne every year to enliven c-ur harvefl:-hoP1e.-This eveningiti) to be celebrateJ. ·rhe evcn~ng c.Pne; thejoyousparty footu.l it away rnerrily, and the found of theit {h oes was heard on the barn floor. It was not the light fant,1ltic toe, that fafhio.1 taught to move,but hondl hea1t-fclt mirth, and the loud laugh, if it fpoke the vacanthe~d, faid audibly that the heart wasguile· kfs. I fome Mrs . Mafon always gave t 1em ~ . ~ to render trifling prcicnts at t 111swne, lhc [ I 2I ] 1i of winter more comtheapproac 11 o the inen, {he genera y T fortable. . l h refented warm clothmg, :ncl t~ ~ e P womenflax and worfted 1or <n1ttrng andfpinning;and tho~e who were the moftinduftrious received a reward when the new year commenced. The children had books given to them, and l'ttleornaments.- i\11 were anxious ;orthe day; and received th~ir old acquaintance , the harper , with the moftcordialfiniles. CH AP. XV. Prayer.-A M oon~li ght Scene.- Re.fignati on. HE harper would frequently fit under a large elm, a few paces fromthe houfe, and play fome of the mo{l: plaintive \V elD1 tunes. \V hile the people were eating their fnpper, Mrs.Mafon defired hin1 to l: by her fomefavouriteairs ; an<lfhe and the G children T �[ [ I 22 , ] children walked round the tree under . wl11chhe fat, on the fl:ump·of another The rnoon rofc in cloudlefs · ~ and a number of fl:arstwinkled near her. 1·he foftcned landkape·tnfpi red tranquillity, while the fhain f ~0 rutuc melody gave a pleafing melancholy to the whole-and madethe tear frart, whofe fource could fcarcely , be traced. 1-.he pleafure the fightof harn1lefs rnirth g~tve rife to in Mrs. Mafon' s bofotn, roufed every tender feeling-fet in rnotion her fpirits.-She laug hed ¼ ith the poor whomfhehad mad e happy, and wept when fuerecol leB:cd her o,vn farrows; the illuf10nsof youth-the gay expeB:ationsthathad fonnerly clipped the wings of time. She turned to the girls-I havebeenvery unfortunate, my young friends; butmy griefs are now of a placi<lkind. Heavy misfortunes have obfcured the funI gazed at when firft I entered lifeearly attachrnents have been brokenth~ d~ath of friends I loved has(o ·n y, Je clouded ~ 123 my days ; th at net ther the de<l cou . . , nor even t h01e r. l f profpenty O l}e:u11s . of benevolenc e, can d1ili?ate ~h1e gloom ; but I am not. loft 1n a thtc,~ r - My fl ate of inrnd rather reO 100. femble s the fccnc before you, it is quiet -I am we~.ned fron1 the ':orld, butnot difgufted- for I can fbll do good - andin futurity a fun will rife to cheer myheart.-Beyond the night of death , I hail the dawn of an eternd day! I mention my fiate of n1i11d coyou,t~at I may cell you what fop-portsme. The fe.fi:ivity v1ithin, and the pkciditywithout, led my thoughts 11aturallyto the fource fro1n whence my comfortfprings-to the Great Befro_ wer of every bleffing. Prayer, n1y children,is the dcareft privilege of man, and the fopport of a frelino0 heart w· l . • •1.ine 1as too often been woundedbY rngrat1tude; · · n1y fellowtreatures h I h ~ w om 1\JVe fondly loved aveneglecced n1e- I ha.veheard chei; G 2 laft �[ I 24 ] ( 1'25 ) 'itudeand admiration, we 1nuit laft figh, and thrown my evesrou d tograt an empty world; but h. n adoreGod. ..· . t en mor The human foul is fo frame~, tl:at pardcu larly feelrno-the prer. e b 1ence ofm efsand truth muft fill it with inC reator, I poured out my r. 16 Y dn . H. iou efore goo elfable pleafure, and the nearer 1t apim~ a-~d was no longer alone!- I now a1 y conte1nplate His wond erful proaches to perfection, th e .more eard' [. oeftly will it purfue tho~e virtues, 1 goodnefs; and, thouoh at an ..r.I . b a\vm cerning more clear1y their beauty. d1ftance, try to imitate Him. Th' . f I. IS The Supreme Being dwells in the view o t 11ngs is a fpur to aftivit· r, . . fl an d a con101at10n 111 difappointmem. univerfe.He is as eff'entially pr efent to the wicked as to th e good; but There 1s 1n face a conftantinter courfe kept up with the Creator,when the latter delight in His pre1ence, andtry to pleaie I-Iim, whilft the we learn to confider Him, as the fountain of truth, whichour underftand- formerllirink from a Judge, who is of too pure a nature to behold jng naturally thirfts after. But His iniquity. -Th e wicked wifh for the goodnefs brings Hi m ftill moreona rocksto coverthem, ,nountain s, or the level with our bounded capacities - for angryfea, which we the other day furwe trace it in every work ofmercy,and , to hide them from the prefence feel, in forrow particularly, Hisfatherly veyed care. Every bleffing is doubledwhen ofthatBeing-in whofe prefence only theycoll'ldfind joy . You feel emowe fupp ofe it co1nes from Him,and tions that incite you to do good ; affiiEtions almoft lofe their namewhen we believe they are fent to corre_a, andpainful ones diiturb you, when not crufh us .-Whil!l: we ate ahve youhave refiftcd the faithful internal (0 monitor . The wifer, and the better I G3 you �,,, \ I [ l ·26 ) you grow, the more vifibl 'f1 life the expreffion .11G e, I may . ·1, . , w1 od bee _,or w1fdom conGH:si·nr1ea1 ~c1111 · womeH' out-and aoo r. . o 1m 1 o c ne1s rn endea . to copy his attributes. vounng 1"'o attain any rhinoO'ffat 0 c m ft b } , a mode! u e 1eld up to ex ere· r ft . , 11eourunder anc~rng, and en?age our affections~ .t~ view_ of the d1fintereftedgoodnefs of God is therefore calculatedto touch tis more than can be conceived by a depraved mind. When the love of God is fhed abroad in our hearts. ' t~ue courage will animate our conduct, for nothing can hurt thofewhotrufrin 1• fiin If the defire of accinoright • b 1s ever prefent with us, if admiration · of gooclnefa fills our fouls; we maybe ' fa.id to pray conftantly. And if we try to do ju fl:ice to all our fellowcreatures, and even-to the brutecrea _tion; and amft them as far as we can, we prove whofe fcrvants·weare, ,•and whofe laws we tranfcribein our lives. Never ( 127 ] Neverbe very anxious·, when yori hat wordsto ufe; regulate your pbray,hwts and recollect:that virtue cahns t oug ; · .theoaffions,gives.clearnefs to the underftanding,and opens it to pleafures thatthe thoughtlefs and vicious have nota glimpfeof. You n1ufi, believe me, be acquainted with God to find peace,to rife fuperior to worldly tempuions. Habitual devotion is of the utmoftconfequence to our bappinefs, aswhatofteneft . occupies the tfloughts willinfluence our actions. Bur, obfervewhat I fay,- that devotion is mockeryand felfifhnefs, which does notimprove our moral character. •Men, <l old, prayed to the devil, facrificedtheir children to hi1n ; a·nd committed every kind of barbarity and.i1:1puri _ty. But we who fcrve a longfufknng God fhould pity the weaknefsof our fellow-creatures; we mufi: not beg for 1nercy and not fhew it; -we rnuft not acknowledge that we haveo~endcd.,~ r ithout trying to avoid G 4 doing �[ [ ] CH A J>. XVI. 128 doing fo in future. We are t d 0 eal ·h · w1t our fellow-creaturesas we . expect to be dealt w_1th. This is pracliral prayer !-Tho!e who pracl:ifeit feel frequently fubhme pleafures,andlive! hopes animate~them in this valedr tears; that fee1n a foretafteof thefe.. licity they will enjoy, whentheunder .. ftanding is 1nore enlightened,.andthe affections properly regulated. To-morrow I will take youtovifit the fchool-miftrefs of the village,and relate her itory, to enforcewha tI have been faying. Now you may go and danceoneor two dances ; and 1 will join youafter I have taken a walk, whichI wifhto e1tjoyalone~ CHAP, 1,'he Benefitsarziji ng firom D evotion.-l be Hijfory of the Village Sebo~ ... .'I'.. "r, Fatal Effectsof Inattention miftre_; s.to Expences,in the Hijlory- of Mr. Lofty. T HE next morning Mrs. Mafo.n defiredthe children to get th~ir work,and draw near the table wh1lfl: !herelatedthe promifed hiftory; and in the afternoon, if the weather be fine,they were to vifit the village fchool-miftrefs. "Her father, the honourable Mr. Lofty,was the youngeft fon of a. noblefamily; his educatio·. had been liberal,though his fortune was ftnall. HisTelation s, however, feeme<l determinedto pufh hi!n forward in life, before he difo~ligedthem by marrying GS the � Dublin Core The Dublin Core metadata element set is common to all Omeka records, including items, files, and collections. For more information see, http://dublincore.org/documents/dces/. 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